Halibut Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 I think it's possible for people to change. There are plenty of people who did once but don't anymore and won't again. I agree with Medusa on the general principle that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour, but it's onlya general principle and there are plenty of exceptions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheBlueDragon Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 Yes, once a cheat always a cheat. My ex cheated on me and she has shown over and over again that she cant help but cheat. She will say that she really likes this bf then a few weeks later someone finds out shes cheated Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
demoniac Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 yep once a cheat always a cheat people dont change if they have done it once they will do it again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halibut Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 Yes, once a cheat always a cheat. My ex cheated on me and she has shown over and over again that she cant help but cheat. She will say that she really likes this bf then a few weeks later someone finds out shes cheated No offence but doesn't that just show that one particular human being (your ex) is still cheating -it doesn't show that she always will nor that everyone who has ever cheated will continue to do so indefinitely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonbird Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 I think that once a person cheats on you they will probably continue to do so periodically, I don't however think that it means that they will cheat in a different relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suffragette1 Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 I think it's possible for people to change. There are plenty of people who did once but don't anymore and won't again. I agree with Medusa on the general principle that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour, but it's onlya general principle and there are plenty of exceptions. I agree with both Halibut & Medusa. However, I am one exception as my track record wasn't great yet have been 100% utterly faithful to my husband and had opportunities but have still remained true & will do till death us do part. That said I wouldn't personally trust someone who had a really poor relationship history. I do, however, believe that everyone should be given a second chance. But it's whether it was an aberration or not that is the issue. Some people just refuse and are unable to remain faithful, my brother-in-law being a case in point yet my sister-in-law is still with him for some unbeknown reason. He is a real opportunist and has made it clear that he'd like to add me to his string of infidelities:gag:. He will never change and has little incentive to as his wife continually forgives him and blames the other woman rather than him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TallestDwarf Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 I agree with both Halibut & Medusa. However, I am one exception as my track record wasn't great yet have been 100% utterly faithful to my husband and had opportunities but have still remained true & will do till death us do part. That said I wouldn't personally trust someone who had a really poor relationship history. huh: Well done so far but....Never say never.......... I haven't cheated on the missus either. And I wouldn't fancy my chances of pulling even if I wanted to. I was never very much good at that even when I was single. I think it was partly because my attempts to be subtle when meeting attractive women were usually betrayed by my tongue hanging out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suffragette1 Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 Well done so far but....Never say never.......... I haven't cheated on the missus either. And I wouldn't fancy my chances of pulling even if I wanted to. I was never very much good at that even when I was single. I think it was partly because my attempts to be subtle when meeting attractive women were usually betrayed by my tongue hanging out. Well I suppose the real test then is whether or not you take the opportunity when it's presented to you. I haven't. And nor do I believe has he. Furthermore, if he had I'd much rather not know about it unless he were in love with someone else. Anyway I ensure he's always too exhausted to go sniffing around anyone else! 11 years together & still strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fox20thc Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 I'm quick, really quick ......... Just as our lass That's nothing to be proud of ...:hihi: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Swan_Vesta Posted May 26, 2008 Share Posted May 26, 2008 That's nothing to be proud of ...:hihi: Is it wrong that I shout "I WIN" as well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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