hotthing Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 I've always considered myself to have a good group of friends and in turn, an active social life. I'm in my mid-twenties and lately, it just feels like things are going through a bit of a lull. Some friends of mine have started having children and/or getting married or just becoming a lot more settled with their partners. I love my boyfriend to bits and we live together but we're not ready to take any further steps, which is fine, but I just feel a bit lost at the moment without many friends to just go to the cinema with, go for tea with, that kind of thing. I don't want to badger my bf to do stuff with me all the time as I worry he'll get sick of seeing me all the time. My job has become very stale and so it doesn't keep me busy on the evenings when I have nothing else planned, not that I particularly want a job that eats into a lot of my social time but it doesn't help this 'lost' feeling that I have. It doesn't help that I'm just rubbish at kicking about the house if I've got nothing planned and just watching TV on my own, I like to be doing things! This all sounds very trivial but it's really getting me down now - I feel almost panicked about evenings or days at the weekend when I have nothing planned and get all teary about it, which my boyfriend bears the brunt of most of the time and then that leads to the guilt that I'm making things worse between us. Some other people just seem good at spending quite a bit of time on their own, what's the trick to that?! I don't think I'm making things easy for myself by feeling like I've got to be out and about, doing things all the time for my life to seem worthwhile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Peaches* Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Maybe get a hobby? What things do you like? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotthing Posted May 25, 2010 Author Share Posted May 25, 2010 I'm thinking that a new hobby would be good - just a case of seeing what kind of things are out there and matching that to what i like doing! I would like to keep fit and active but I'm not a massively sporty person so would not want to join a sports team or anything. I guess I shouldn't be looking for reassurance on the Forum as I will sound like a whinger but I guess I just want to know that it's normal to go through these phases when your friendship circles naturally change and people move on and that it won't always feel this lonely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Peaches* Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 No its totally natural to go through stages like this. I breed and show Guinea pigs, and I have met the most amazing people through it, same with showign my Dogs. Its finding something you enjoy, and are interested in doing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foxforcefive Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 I'm thinking that a new hobby would be good - just a case of seeing what kind of things are out there and matching that to what i like doing! I would like to keep fit and active but I'm not a massively sporty person so would not want to join a sports team or anything. I guess I shouldn't be looking for reassurance on the Forum as I will sound like a whinger but I guess I just want to know that it's normal to go through these phases when your friendship circles naturally change and people move on and that it won't always feel this lonely Unfortunately we don't all find the perfect bloke, settle down and have kids at the same time, your settled down friends probably envy your freedom from time to time. How about offering to babysit your friends kids whilst they have a night out, it'll get you out of the house and give them a break. Or call round for a cuppa, I know when I had kids my friends used to call round for a cuppa a couple of times a week, just an hour and a gossip can do wonders. There are loads of dance classes, night school classes, sporting activities, social groups etc in and around Sheffield to make new friends and learn new skills. As for your job, have you thought about applying for new positions? Hope you get out of your rut and start to feel more positive soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emma royd Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Gin is the answer. Generations of our family can't all be wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kthebean Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Gin is the answer. Generations of our family can't all be wrong. :hihi: Too right! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berlin Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 What's a social life? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sophiec1979 Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 my social life revolves around my hobby! i have fairs every weekend all over the country, i have a solid group of friends who are aways at these events....and it always lovely to meet new people at them too. x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agent Orange Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 I have an average social life. I get to go out once in a while and also incorporate socialising with a few of my hobbies. I suspect my social life will vanish soon as I concentrate on other matters. Must need to find things to do to keep me sane. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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