Child gets himself to school while mother sleeps.

[Bloomdido]

My 11 year-old son is resident with his mother during the week. He gets himself up and ready and gets the bus to school a couple of miles away while she sleeps in bed. She doesn’t have a job but tends to stay up late internetting.

 

He has been late twice this week, getting in to school at mid morning after he overslept and she would never have known except for the ‘absence’ call from his school.

 

He also told me that she doesn’t get up at weekends until the afternoon and if he gets up before her, she gets cross, so he stays in his room until she has been up half an hour and then he ‘gets up’. She fought me in court (unemployed = legal aid) to get residency of him and then she behaves like this.

 

Thankfully my son will be going to a school near me come September and then he will have much more influence over where he resides. I’m still tempted to raise it with his school though but am worried about repercussions.

 

Just thought I would share this with you.

[cgksheff]

I'll pray for you all.

 

I wish you wouldn't put stuff about your children on the web until you can destroy all identifiable information (which you can't).

[Lorri]

That can't be right, it doesn't sound like much of a life for him!

 

I doubt the school can do much unless he isn't attending, although it still might be a good idea to talk to them to show you are concerned.

 

I would seriously consider talking to social services if you are concerned about his welfare, I'm sure they'll respect your confidentiality if you're worried about repercussions.

[Suffragette1]

That can't be right, it doesn't sound like much of a life for him!

 

I doubt the school can do much unless he isn't attending, although it still might be a good idea to talk to them to show you are concerned.

 

I would seriously consider talking to social services if you are concerned about his welfare, I'm sure they'll respect your confidentiality if you're worried about repercussions.

 

If he's consistently late, then it will be a matter for the education welfare team.

 

@Bloomdido - does your ex not have an alarm clock? Mobile phone? Have you tried talking to her about this?

[Bloomdido]

If he's consistently late, then it will be a matter for the education welfare team.

 

@Bloomdido - does your ex not have an alarm clock? Mobile phone? Have you tried talking to her about this?

 

We don't communicate. Too many court cases.

[rubydazzler]

You could start giving him an 'alarm' call in the morning to make sure he gets up in time.

 

It's obviously not an ideal situation for your son, could you have him over every Friday to Monday, and then the situation with having to stay in his room at the weekend won't arise?

[Lorri]

If he's consistently late, then it will be a matter for the education welfare team.

 

@Bloomdido - does your ex not have an alarm clock? Mobile phone? Have you tried talking to her about this?

Yes, I was trying to think of their name... but she doesn't sound bothered so I wonder if she'd listen to them They may be able to action some family suport though.

[Suffragette1]

We don't communicate. Too many court cases.

 

Has your son got a phone? He can set his alarm on it or you could ring or text him to tell him to get up?

[Suffragette1]

Yes, I was trying to think of their name... but she doesn't sound bothered so I wonder if she'd listen to them They may be able to action some family suport though.

 

The education welfare officer will pay a home visit if it persists.

[lawsociety]

Thats discusting of her, what a waste of her life and your sons life. i could go on about what i think of what she sounds like but you obviousley already know.

 

Why fight for for him if she obviousley isnt bothered about his welfare, mental, physical or emotional? from the sounds of it i hope you get custordy and help him escape his neglectfull mother.