Scozzie Posted June 14, 2010 Share Posted June 14, 2010 material things just don't suit some people Practitioner. I agree with Madnbad. Try living with only things you can carry and see a bit of the world. When you graduate, sell your cars, rent out your house, buy yourself and your girlfriend backpacks and just go. Take off somewhere and explore parts of the world you have always wanted to see. Get a bar job in a foreign country. Practice law where people cant afford expensive lawyers. I suspect you are not living the life you want to lead, but the life you think is expected of you. Don't try to please people, or impress people if it doesn't make you happy. If you are not happy, change it. Don't end it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bedders Posted June 14, 2010 Share Posted June 14, 2010 When you qualify why not try some 'PRO BONO' work? It may make you feel better about yourself & get away from the assets / money equals happiness? Does law really float your boat? You are at work a long time & you have to have some level of interest in it, or you're doomed! I just couldn't do a job that doesn't stimulate me in someway. Some people on here will say how can you not be happy with what you have got? Yes if you've got nothing & everything is a struggle yes you can be very unhappy. But on the otherhand,some people can get everything in life quiet easily & not be happy! Do you think you are the sort that would not like to leave the world (hopefully in many, many years to come) without leaving 'your leagcy' so to speak? Perhaps a landmark case helping people less fortunate than yourself via PRO BONO may be the thing? Sorry i don't really know your personality, but i'm just trying to switch on 'what is missing'. What i would say to you is think long & hard about the specialism of law you wish to do when you qualify. Dealing with criminals all day could get a person down, & specialising in family could make you dissallusioned about the sanctity of marriage. Try to find something that you will find forefilling......easy to say but that is the key! Regards Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
L00b Posted June 14, 2010 Share Posted June 14, 2010 Are you really unsatisfied with your lot (materials + relationship), or I cant seem to shake the belief that life just isn't worth living, its too long.unsatisfied with living, as such? Bit of a difference, IMHO, and your OP seems a bit ambiguous about it. FWIW, I'm always unsatisfied with my lot (once I reach a goal, or get hold of a 'life carrot', I don't seem to be able to enjoy it for 2 mins before I'm unhappy (sort of) and already moving onto the next goal/'carrot'), and my Mrs is forever giving me grief about this particular aspect of my personality. I put it down to my upbringing...and strict schooling in my early years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Northrend Posted June 14, 2010 Share Posted June 14, 2010 I have debated this topic with many people strangers and friends alike, but now its time to put the question to this particular forum. I cant seem to shake the belief that life just isn't worth living, its too long. Before I get the suicide helpline number, or the sympathetic "Dont do it, it always gets better" posts. Im not contemplating nor have I ever attempted suicide. I ask the question because it would seem someone with all the blessings I have been given would cherish them and be eternally greatful yet I still would be non the less happier if it all ended. I dont mean to sound big headed, but as a 23 year old law student, I pretty much have already what most people will work for in their lifetime, I have my own house, I have 2 cars, A girl friend who I'd prefer to be with than anyone else on earth(excluding a certain movie star - thats just lust though it will be over in a matter of minutes) but not satisfied. Unfortunatly this isn't a feeling on a cloud filled rainy day its a general occurance why is this. HI Mate, Well i'll swap with you.. I have no car, a house which is not worth much and I am stuck with because I am going through a divorce. I have no savings or money I can use for anything. My 2 young children are the only thing right now keeping me here. You REALLY want to know what it's like? Come walk in my shoes. I have tried to kill myself. Twice over the past 4 months Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
practitioner Posted June 14, 2010 Author Share Posted June 14, 2010 Just to clear a few things I'll generalize instead of quoting each post as a few of them did ask similar questions. I am a law student I haven't graduated yet, I cant say I have a passion for it, but I wasn't forced into it, I chose it out of all the courses which I was equally as unpassionate about, but I do know its better to get some sort of a degree hopefully before Im 30. Besides my first car, which I no longer have I did work for literally everything else I have at this moment in time. As for the comments about not knowing what its like on the other side that has truth to the extent that I have never really had to go without food/water, but I have experienced the type of poverty that people will experience living on estates in the UK. (if you can call that poverty - to me if you have food/water and a roof your not in poverty). If I went to see my GP, would it be possible to get a test done for something like http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/1263322.stm, I dont have want them to refer me to a therapist or anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mecky Posted June 14, 2010 Share Posted June 14, 2010 The problem is that most people assume they must get married, have a house, a car, 2.4 children and a cat and a dog etc. You lack imagination. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blade73 Posted June 14, 2010 Share Posted June 14, 2010 HI Mate, Well i'll swap with you.. I have no car, a house which is not worth much and I am stuck with because I am going through a divorce. I have no savings or money I can use for anything. My 2 young children are the only thing right now keeping me here. You REALLY want to know what it's like? Come walk in my shoes. I have tried to kill myself. Twice over the past 4 months Jesus that's bad s**t mate! Can't imagine what you'd have to go thru to be able to consider doing that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
practitioner Posted June 14, 2010 Author Share Posted June 14, 2010 The problem is that most people assume they must get married, have a house, a car, 2.4 children and a cat and a dog etc. You lack imagination. I dont think imagination is the case, as for kids and pets I dont want either, If my kids are anything like me, they will just be quietly ungrateful for this thing we call life, and will see me as the burden they have to carry which is forcing them to stay here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Northrend Posted June 14, 2010 Share Posted June 14, 2010 Jesus that's bad s**t mate! Can't imagine what you'd have to go thru to be able to consider doing that! Well, having your whole world fall apart is enough for some people. But I appreciate what you are saying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Agent Orange Posted June 14, 2010 Share Posted June 14, 2010 I think you need to take a step back from things and think through what you really want. It's easy to just go along with the flow and feel unhappy about it. However, give yourself a break and you might find the answer to your question. I believe you haven't found what you truly want in life. Get out there, experience the world, different people in whatever form you choose. Life is too short to plod along in a mundane existence - go for it!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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