Alien Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 Well to me when my daughter asks if it's possible I could pick her up just on a Tuesday night because she's worried about walking alone to a bus stop in town, it's the natural thing to say, "Of course". All people are different I guess. Or...'ok you won't let me use the car? I'll go get her myself'. It's only once a week and you wouldn't be that put out. Or get your daughter to catch a cab. What's more important? Her safety or the principle you're having with your OH? What is it you actually want off this forum regarding this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tatman Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 Oh, dear, the old "if you haven't got children yourself, you can't possible understand/know how you'd behave" card! Erm, can you please point out whre i said that or appologise for that big fat lie? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melthebell Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 people get too used to their cars, here they drive to the shop and have to park as close to the doors as they can as tho an extra 20 steps will kill em Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissMonkey Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 Erm, can you please point out whre i said that or appologise for that big fat lie? :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alien Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 sounds like a spoilt family to me 1: kid shouldnt need lifts all the time, i never did, never did me no harm 2: missus shouldnt have spat the dummy out The point is...she's not a "kid"...she's an adult. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
_BLADESMAN_ Posted September 21, 2010 Author Share Posted September 21, 2010 Or...'ok you won't let me use the car? I'll go get her myself'. It's only once a week and you wouldn't be that put out. Or get your daughter to catch a cab. What's more important? Her safety or the principle you're having with your OH? What is it you actually want off this forum regarding this? I asked for opinion and that's what I'm getting. And of course my daughters safety is more important. Strange you ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melthebell Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 The point is...she's not a "kid"...she's an adult. well i meant kid as in child ie:- his child even adults are somebodys child Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissMonkey Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 The point is...she's not a "kid"...she's an adult. She will always be BLADESMAN's kid (child), no matter what her age. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melthebell Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 I asked for opinion and that's what I'm getting. And of course my daughters safety is more important. Strange you ask. and how do you know she wont be safe? is it right putting your paranoias onto her and feeding her fear? will that affect her in the long term? will she not be 100% independent? plenty of people manage to get by on buses and in the streets safely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Vader Posted September 21, 2010 Share Posted September 21, 2010 It's only early September, and for an evening course, this could be the first time the his daughter has had to to make this journey. Ideally, I would say, it would be better to meet her and take the journey with her, then you can assess the risks together. It could well be that your daughter meets up on the course with someone else who travels in the same direction, or on the same bus route, so you could meet her at the bus stop at Shirecliffe, in time. All you refer to is 'your partner'. Is she the mother of your daughter? Do you live with your partner? Does your daughter? Knowing the answer to these questions could change what people thought. We don't have enough info to make judgements. If the argument was about money, maybe the partner thinks that Bladesman should pay towards the costs of the car and has a valid point witholding it, who knows? My actions would be to get the bus to meet her, and then pick her up on the bus, and then, you get the chance to assess the risks, and whether you both feel safe for her to be travelling this route alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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