lion man Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 has the other x half not gave your child anything for christmas? and if not what do you say to them, without being the bad guy to your child? “he might not see me again if you say something”? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tatman Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Anyone who doesnt do right by their kids is a tool. Tell your kids your X is a tool and they are better off without them. A bit of honesty is always a good thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chimay Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I used to say something like 'dad will explain when he sees you next' and sometimes the next time was months later and we were saying the same thing about Easter eggs................. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mc55 Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 used to happen to me when I was younger - hurts like hell, but you learn to accept it and harden your heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alien Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Anyone who doesnt do right by their kids is a tool. Tell your kids your X is a tool and they are better off without them. A bit of honesty is always a good thing. Being a "tool" isn't defined by buying Christmas presents or not. The OP really hasn't given any relevant info on the partner other than - no xmas presents -to come to that conclusion. To the op. More info might be helpful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luybell Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I am not a 1 parent family but a step parent. My husbands kids live with us as their mum has mental health issues. They went up yesterday with their Xmas money as they were meeting mum for late lunch & going shopping. Dad gave them a tenner to cover theirs (as is the norm) but on top of this their mum has 'borrowed' £15 of my stepdaughters xmas money. I am absolutely furious as past experience shows she is not very likely to get this back. She hasn't given them anything yet as she was unable to get her money out of the bank before xmas. I can put up with this, even the kids arent expecting anything but am furious about her taking this money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grandad.Malky Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 their mum has 'borrowed' £15 of my stepdaughters xmas money. . That’s lower than a snakes belly …………. The kids xmas money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spooky3 Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Guilt trips, don't ban them, half of them want to be banned because it gives them an excuse and the moral high ground (no matter how illegitimate). Or, thank them for the presents, if they say "oh no matter" then you've got them bang to rights for lying, or if they come clean then they'll have been made aware, but you must also wonder who might have sent them then, ask them if they think one of their mates sent the card with cash in because they knew you wouldn't, they then get para that their being judged by their mates... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spooky3 Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I may be skint at times and not be able to my nieces and nephews what they want, but they get time and attention from me, just try stopping me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evei Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I suppose it depends on how much they are paying in CSA payments. If everything they have is going in CSA payments (up to 40% of the take home wage) they might find it very hard to save any money to buy presents though you would expect them to give a token present or treat. As for borrowing money that is dreadful! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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