rich5315 Posted December 30, 2010 Share Posted December 30, 2010 my partner has a 12 year old to her x hubby, the child has lived with his mother for 11 years, when we decided to move to the east coast the childs father refused point blank to return the child after a regular weekend visit, the parents had a joint residance order from when they divorced so the police wouldnt act on the childs absence, the father has since won a residence order to keep the child, being decided by a social worker report, which said that because the child has moved schools and lived with his father for 8 months then it would be better for the child to stay with his father, a very one sided report i must say, there are even lies about myself in it just to make me look a bad boy, when the father won the residence order he agreed to let the child see his mother fortnightly for 4 hours and a telephone call once a week but now he has the residency all contact has now stopped, the mother is gutted, the child has been brainwashed for 8 months against his mother and is now refusing to see or even speak to her, his father is a nasty piece of work when the child lived with us we had to make him visit his dad, the child now refuses any contact, even the telephone calles are being recorded by his dad. our solicitor has told us that because the child is 12 no court will enforce him to see his mum and that she will have to wait till the child is older and decides to see her off his own back, this is happening to thousands of children each year, there should be a law to stop this thing happening!!! i think children should not be able to decide until they are 16, P.S I FORGOT TO MENTION THAT THE CHILDS FATHER IS ON THE SEX REGISTER AND IS A SCHEDULE ONE OFFENDER,HE WAS ABUSED AS A CHILD HIMSELF, HES BEEN UNDER MENTAL HEALTH COUNCILLING FOR OVER 20 YEARS, HOW CAN SOCIAL SERVICES BACK HIM IN A REPORT, HIS MOTHER HAS NOT PUT A FOOT WRONG, social services invited the childs mother to a meeting to discuss any risk there may be sexually from the father but they withdrew the invite at the last minute and decided themselves in the meeting that there was no risk to the child WHAT A COVER UP< THE FATHERS NOT FIT TO BE WALKING THE STREETS NEVER MIND LOOK AFTER A CHILD!! anyone else had the same problems, my partners lost her son through this and theres nothing she can do!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pennangton Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 That is so hard to read... Just one big block of text... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
liza D Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 It must have gone to court for the father to win custody so they will have asked the child what he wanted, which they do when a child is 8 or over. There are ALWAYS two sides to every story and you have only heard the mothers who obviously can't keep a confidence if she has told you what the childs father must have told her(that's if it's true). I really can't see why you are getting involved, this is between the childs parents and really has nothing to do with you. I can understand you don't want to see your partner hurting but I really don't think you are helping one little bit. Does she know you have plastered her familys business on this forum? If the father found out you have just give him more reason to keep the child away from his mother. You. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grandad.Malky Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 That is so hard to read... Just one big block of text... I tried but gave up half way …….. at least I didnt have to read the block capital bit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glamrocker Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 It looks like a one sided blaming rant to me,if the father was on the sex offenders list as claimed Im sure the mother would have a very strong case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natjack Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 There are some real pieces of work on this forum. If you don't have anything relevant to say, why comment? When a bloke's got a problem, criticising his writing style is really helpful, yeah? Mu suggestion would be scrupulously keep up the limited contact she has, calls and letters, and never give up on the kid. Even sending a postcard every day with news about what's going on at home for instance. Some will be bound to get to him. I'd also look at consulting another solicitor, if you can find one that specialises in this sort of case. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alchresearch Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 It is very hard to read though. Someone who could have given the best advice may have given up reading through frustration, I know I did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donnygirl Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 There are some real pieces of work on this forum. If you don't have anything relevant to say, why comment? When a bloke's got a problem, criticising his writing style is really helpful, yeah? Mu suggestion would be scrupulously keep up the limited contact she has, calls and letters, and never give up on the kid. Even sending a postcard every day with news about what's going on at home for instance. Some will be bound to get to him. I'd also look at consulting another solicitor, if you can find one that specialises in this sort of case. Several years ago friend of mine used to write a weekly letter to his son which the mother hid until she'd got a pile and then complained to Social Services and the police that the bloke was harrassing them. For a while he had to send letters through a third party who took them to the little boy. Eventually it was all sorted out but the mother regularly complained to my friend about the letters. My friend kept copies of his letter and other bits and pieces for his son to have when he got older. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Star Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 If the boy's father has been under mental health counselling for 20 years, and was abused as a child, this didn't stop your mrs having a child with him - she obviously thought he was fit to be a dad then, and so it seems that social services are simply agreeing with her... It must be hard for your wife being without the boy she has raised for 11 years with little involvement from his dad - equally, it must have been hard for the dad to be apart from his son... Come 16, the lad will be able to make his own choices - how do you know that the lad is being brain washed? Did his mother brain wash him against his dad? Why do you think this has happened? He may just need time with his dad and no interuptions - they have a lot to catch up with... Your mrs must have made a mistake in claiming he is a sex offender - They wouldn't give him custody if he messed with kids... I hope she didn't try and tell her son anything daft like that - if she did, that was a huge mistake, wasn't it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppins Posted December 31, 2010 Share Posted December 31, 2010 There are some real pieces of work on this forum. If you don't have anything relevant to say, why comment? When a bloke's got a problem, criticising his writing style is really helpful, yeah? I agree, nit pickers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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