danot Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Dear Forum... What is more important to people - your health or money? Me and my partner had this debate yesterday as I've been off work sick for a while and I spoke to my partner about the possibility of me going back part time if my manager is OK with that. I was thinking part time at least until I get a diagnosis and get on top of my health problems and get them under control. He says at my age I should be working full time instead of wanting to work part time and sit around doing nothing for the rest of the time. He says he can't afford to support me going part time as he has a daughter from a previous relationship to support. I had already worked out we could just afford for me to go part time but we would have to tighten our belts. To which I got the reply "I have never struggled for money, I'm not going to start now." He then went on to tell me that he prioritised money before my health as money pays the bills. I said my health should come first. So who do people think is right? Should health or money come first? Definately health first. Iv'e no desire to be the richest man in the grave yard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smack Jack Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 I agree that it totally depends on the issues involved. My oh has some health issues and I've always been the bread winner, however its relatively minor. She earns half what I do but spends twice what I do, she has a decent car, house etc. Whilst if she was ill, or being bullied at work and had to leave etc (and I have supported her through that) I dont see why heavy periods or frequent tiredness (or similar) should exempt her from work. I cant pack in when I dont feel like it cos everything we have and will have is on the back of me (she works etc but you take my point!). Now my Oh has had time out, for example waiting for the right job after redundancy but some things I wouldnt wear. Perhaps he doesnt understand your illness or is frustrated? I get like this sometimes. I feel like I slave away and have nothing, I earn decent money and have a crap phone, crap clothes etc because I have always put the OH first. She isnt bad and doesnt make me dip out but I could never buy £100 pair of jeans when I could buy £20 ones and let her spend £80 on a dress. Maybe hes frustrated, doesnt understand your issues and feels hard done by. Perhaps wrongly but I'd guess he feels that way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rampent Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Dear Forum... What is more important to people - your health or money? Me and my partner had this debate yesterday as I've been off work sick for a while and I spoke to my partner about the possibility of me going back part time if my manager is OK with that. I was thinking part time at least until I get a diagnosis and get on top of my health problems and get them under control. He says at my age I should be working full time instead of wanting to work part time and sit around doing nothing for the rest of the time. He says he can't afford to support me going part time as he has a daughter from a previous relationship to support. I had already worked out we could just afford for me to go part time but we would have to tighten our belts. To which I got the reply "I have never struggled for money, I'm not going to start now." He then went on to tell me that he prioritised money before my health as money pays the bills. I said my health should come first. So who do people think is right? Should health or money come first? Is this a spambot? I don't get the sig or username deal? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smack Jack Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 No - users message a mod when they want privacy. The mod posts under this name so the user gets their discussion and no identity is revealed...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shinyhappy68 Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Is this a spambot? I don't get the sig or username deal? Dear Forum....gives user option to remain private. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
go4it Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Dear Forum... What is more important to people - your health or money? Me and my partner had this debate yesterday as I've been off work sick for a while and I spoke to my partner about the possibility of me going back part time if my manager is OK with that. I was thinking part time at least until I get a diagnosis and get on top of my health problems and get them under control. He says at my age I should be working full time instead of wanting to work part time and sit around doing nothing for the rest of the time. He says he can't afford to support me going part time as he has a daughter from a previous relationship to support. I had already worked out we could just afford for me to go part time but we would have to tighten our belts. To which I got the reply "I have never struggled for money, I'm not going to start now." He then went on to tell me that he prioritised money before my health as money pays the bills. I said my health should come first. So who do people think is right? Should health or money come first? Think of it another way - going back to work full time will be tough and tiring, but ultimately it will make you stronger and healthier. It's like climbing a hill - you feel tired during the climb but feel great at the top. If part time means money struggles then that could affect your health. A different answer I know, but another thing to think about. Too many people stay at home through injury/illness/stress thinking home will make them better, when in fact it is getting out and about, making new friends at work which actually makes people better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chem1st Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 With the back up of a welfare state, health. Without, money. Money vs health. Interesting topic. Can you quantify each in units of the other. Value of human life? - Decreasing constantly in £ terms. (IMO) £30000k per year of added human life - NICE Money valued in life? Via labour perhaps? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bounce Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 health, you can't enjoy money without health Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chem1st Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 health, you can't enjoy money without health And without money you cannot have health.* *-Although the welfare state will afford people this luxury. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Wallace* Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 Dump him! if he feels that strongly about money coming before your health, he just aint worth it. Bit harsh but i get your drift. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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