Speed Demon Posted March 23, 2011 Author Share Posted March 23, 2011 well, i guess it can be overpowering to be keen or interested, but would rather be like that than ignorant or not bothered but then again it has got me nowhere, so may as well show no interest and be ignorant and i may get some things i cant change my basic nature nobody can, but suppose i can change the way i am looked at and the impression i give off, afterall, dont want people being close to me out of pitty as that is wrong, would like honesty and respect and that is what i will give them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jellychristi Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Friendships & Relationships are going in one track.They both are depend on two things Trust and Understanding.There are no things to compare both.Its on human nature on what basis it will accept.Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zippyzag1 Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 Jason, With regard to relationships it's important in life to say what you want, do what you want and be what you want, because someday, someone will come along who likes what you say, likes what you do and likes who you are. In essence, be yourself. If people don't like it, then they're not for you. This applies as much to friendships as it does relationships. As for you, Mecky. In my opinion, you're missing out on something wonderful. True friendship is the game you lose out on if you refuse to play. Just my thoughts. x Well said Stagewalker! This would also be my advice to you Jason. You need to know exactly what you want, then go out there and get it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Speed Demon Posted March 23, 2011 Author Share Posted March 23, 2011 it is easier said than done, think i am forever doomed now it is funny though aint it, that those who go out of their way to be wierd, nasty and abusive seem to get it all yet normal folk who have made mistakes and are not perfect but decent human beings get nothing anyway, i bet those who have it all do not have to worry about social isolation, personal issues and no way forward Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowersfade Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 1.Stop feeling sorry for yourself 2.Get a hobby and join a group eg a book group or a gym class 3.Don't be shy 4.Life is to be lived and enjoyed it's too precious to waste being a miser. 5.Build up your self esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flowersfade Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 I don't have any friends TBH. I think if most people actually understood what a friend is, they'd probably find out that they didn't have any friends too. That explains so much.Get some friends you will be happier all around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RootsBooster Posted March 23, 2011 Share Posted March 23, 2011 I have 3 great friends who are like brothers to me. We meet up once in a while and have a few drinks, we go camping in a farmer's field in the summer, we help each other out occasionally with DIY or other projects. I'm now 31 and have known them since I was 18, I can honestly say they are the best friends I have ever known. I think the key lies in that we don't see each other very often, I have other friends that I see more frequently and so do they, but the other friends are nowhere near the same level as these three. We get to meet up about once every couple of months and have a great time, I would trust them with my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Speed Demon Posted March 23, 2011 Author Share Posted March 23, 2011 thats the thing, i have met my fair share of people some off here, and can say that i would want to trust anyone but to actually say yes here you go, then no because these people would be best of friends to ya face but would be happy to stab ya in the back afterwards i want to say i lead a pretty sad existence at the mo, some things out of choice and some mistakes i am not proud of, that is the way it is and wish i was a different person i like to let off some steam every now and then and this is not the right place to air them, i am feeling sorry for myself and the life i have i have had good people in my life, people who i wish was still in it, but things happen and that is that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charlie9865 Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 I can count my closest and longest term friends on one hand, I wouldn't be able to with acquaintances. I have my long term friends who are: Kirsty best friend from being small we are still friends 18 yr later and still very close. We spend a lot of time together, I just recently last weekend took her to London for weekend. I paid for it as she is the only person I know who does not moan about her life. She does not moan she is going blind, she does not moan about working long hours at argos to support her 2 kids. She never moans she has never ever been on a holiday or that she can't get the latest phone out. She is always there for me when I need someone, we can have times where we don't see each other for months. Due to family things ect, but we can always pick up where we left off like we never was apart. And then the others are Tania, friends for 10 yr and friend I lived with. And Kimberly who has been my friend for 7 year ish. I did not like Kimberly when I first met her, heard some stories and came to assumptions based on idol gossip. OK she has history but she is not no where as bad as some bad minded friends I have had. She is always there for me same with Tania, anyway my point is. You could have a million acquaintances but only a few true friends. I think people use the word friend to freely and they become too close to people before they actually get to know them. And when they finally do get to know person they decide they don't like them. Or that they ain't what they thought and the friends fall out. If people took time to get to know people and being a bit more careful who they welcome in to their lives. They will get hurt I love my close friends and would do anything for them. I to have been hurt by foolisly letting people in. And when they showed their true colours I got hurt, but I was too keen to let people in to my life and label them friends. Now I am much more clear on who stands where in my life and only help those close to me. I would defend them with my life to, cos they all mean the world to me. That bought me down in life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Sidney Posted January 26, 2012 Share Posted January 26, 2012 how on earth does one find them and keep them, was wondering as i am a 31 year old bloke who is the prime example of being in the wrong places at the wrong time and having zero luck with everything have clearly put off people on here and nobody wants to know, so no matter how much i want to have something for me that is special, it will never happen in a month of sundays Blimey, 31 and passed it you must be joking... I had my most "successful" for want of a better word, year when I was 43... You may be coming across as too eager...Its best to treat new women as friends first and then see how it goes, there's less pressure on both parties then..Its always works for me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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