Cottyn Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 Friends son is getting married. We have been invited to the ceremony & afternoon tea in the church hall not the reception or disco in the evening. Feel very hurt as known the whole family well for 26 years. Know others going who have not known them for as long & as close as us. Disappointed as thought we were closer friends than we obviously are. Dont know whether to go or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shortcrust Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 I expect they've had to make some difficult decisions about numbers. Try not to take it too personally. After all, you have been invited! I know this may sound harsh, but if you decide not to go over this then you're clearly not as close as you say you are. You should be looking forward to seeing them get married! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gleadlessgrl Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 Shouldn't you be discussing this with the family, not a bunch of strangers on the internet? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Longcol Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 Friends son is getting married. We have been invited to the ceremony & afternoon tea in the church hall not the reception or disco in the evening. Feel very hurt as known the whole family well for 26 years. Know others going who have not known them for as long & as close as us. Disappointed as thought we were closer friends than we obviously are. Dont know whether to go or not. Do you request "Agadoo" and the like at disco's? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strix Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 Accept gracefully, or you're not their friends there could be half a dozen reasons for you not being invited - a themed party which they think you won't like may be one (eg, if they're planning to play only heavy metal all night ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alien Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 Friends son is getting married. We have been invited to the ceremony & afternoon tea in the church hall not the reception or disco in the evening. Feel very hurt as known the whole family well for 26 years. Know others going who have not known them for as long & as close as us. Disappointed as thought we were closer friends than we obviously are. Dont know whether to go or not. Like shortcrust has said..difficult decisions on who to satisfy. There are probably those who've been invited to the reception and not the ceremony...or not invited at all. Seems you have a problem with them rather than the other way around, otherwise you wouldn't have got any invite. Stop whimpering and enjoy the day....you know it makes sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strix Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 we were recently invited to a wedding which was perplexing - we received an email saying something like 'but obviously this doesn't apply to those taking part in the tea ceremony' tea ceremony? riiiigghhtt.... so we're not going to be at that bit? sooooo.... what will we be doing at that point? The groom's family are Chinese, and the tea ceremony was only for family, but the other guests stayed to watch Another wedding we knew about was a Dutch/English marriage - the Dutch do things very differently to us, so the bride and groom made up their own itinerary for the day, so ALL the guests didn't get what they were expecting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beakerzoid Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 You say you are a close friend. Do you think that is the case with the son too? After all it is his wedding day, not the parents, and I would imagine that he and his bride will have invited a load of their mates to the evening only. We did pretty much the same with our wedding - work mates and the like coming to the evening only. Old family friends were invited to the ceremony itself, but not necessarily to the reception. I think that you should realise that being friends with someone does not automatically means that any of their children will see you in the same way. At the end if the day it is up to you if you want to go or not - I can't see it upsetting the couple too much, but it may make your friends think twice about inviting you to such a family event again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eater Sundae Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 I have been invited to a wedding on Friday. Well, I say invited, I'm being allowed to watch it on TV. However, I'm not being invited to the meal afterwards. It's just not fair. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riche Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 They don't realy like you. No evening meal no gift. Weddings are a balance of poeple you like and those with money who buy John Lewis gifts. IMO It gonna a hiss it down on Friday Yipee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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