Frank Sidney Posted August 4, 2011 Author Share Posted August 4, 2011 You may wish to contact RODA, a fantastic organisation who will provide guidance and support to families of people with drugs and alcohol addictions. In the capacity of voluntary work that I do, I went to a talk given by the Director who was fantastic and utterly inspiring and committed, having lived through her son's drug addiction. Good luck, it sounds like you have a long road ahead of you. Ultimately, as I'm sure you realise, your family member cannot get better until he wants to. Alcohol is a dreadful drug and one thing that really struck me as well as hit home (as I have known alcoholics of the Jekyll and Hyde breed) is what the woman from RODA said at this talk, that it's not uncommon for people to overcome drug abuse to then become alcoholics. She said that many family members of such people had stated how they preferred them on drugs to alcohol as it did not affect their behaviour as adversely. Alcoholism is a lifelong illness for which there is no cure other than to stop drinking, completely. I was once told by an alcoholic who was vile and abusive when drunk that he had a 'pathological reaction to alcohol'. He could have been making it up and trying to excuse his appalling behaviour, I have no idea. But the type of alcoholic you describe is self-destructive and dangerous. Thanks Suffy I'll contact them when he's out and about again. There is an illness in which alcohol turns the victim into a pathological dangerous person. I'm not talking about a gang of blokes having too much and getting into a fight. Its worse than that, they become extremely dangerous, their personality transforms. I don't know what they call it, but it exists. Many years ago I remember reading a report about a man who put this forward as a defence at a trial. Can't remember his crime though. The root of the problem is the main issue he needs to tackle and until he does the problem will continue. I'll always be their for him, he's my son, and I can't leave him alone with this... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Sidney Posted August 4, 2011 Author Share Posted August 4, 2011 Thank God he has someone like you in the family. Don't give in mate, the root of the problem sounds like that childhood incident. You got close to it before you can do it again, and if you can pursuade him that nothing is so bad it can't be sorted he might just confide. If he does then it should be a bit easier to get him to accept help. There is always hope. Thanks that's kind of you to say... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suffragette1 Posted August 4, 2011 Share Posted August 4, 2011 Thanks Suffy I'll contact them when he's out and about again. There is an illness in which alcohol turns the victim into a pathological dangerous person. I'm not talking about a gang of blokes having too much and getting into a fight. Its worse than that, they become extremely dangerous, their personality transforms. I don't know what they call it, but it exists. Many years ago I remember reading a report about a man who put this forward as a defence at a trial. Can't remember his crime though. The root of the problem is the main issue he needs to tackle and until he does the problem will continue. I'll always be their for him, he's my son, and I can't leave him alone with this... My heart goes out to you. All you can do is be there for him and be supportive, which is what you are doing. He who does not want to be helped cannot be helped, that is a fact, a hard one I know, but he has to want to get better himself. RODA is brilliant for people in your situation. They run support groups which meet regularly for you to attend and just sharing your experience with others in similar positions will probably be of great help and you may learn some coping mechanisms. Is the condition that you're thinking of Pathological Alcohol Intoxication? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Sidney Posted August 4, 2011 Author Share Posted August 4, 2011 My heart goes out to you. All you can do is be there for him and be supportive, which is what you are doing. He who does not want to be helped cannot be helped, that is a fact, a hard one I know, but he has to want to get better himself. RODA is brilliant for people in your situation. They run support groups which meet regularly for you to attend and just sharing your experience with others in similar positions will probably be of great help and you may learn some coping mechanisms. Is the condition that you're thinking of Pathological Alcohol Intoxication? Thanks for that. It is the condition I was thinking of. I feel some intensive research coming on....:thumbsup: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
S8NWC Posted August 13, 2011 Share Posted August 13, 2011 Some GPs have access to an alcohol worker who might be able to help or point you in the right direction. email me at northernlines@mail.com if you want. Good luck with this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Sidney Posted August 13, 2011 Author Share Posted August 13, 2011 Some GPs have access to an alcohol worker who might be able to help or point you in the right direction. email me at northernlines@mail.com if you want. Good luck with this. Ok thanks for that. He'll be away for a few years but I'll come back to it in the future... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maz3 Posted January 28, 2014 Share Posted January 28, 2014 Frank, this is the number for Drug and Alcohol Treatment services in Sheffield: 0114 2930004 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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