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The business needs to know from the employee exactly whats up with them. You cannot get onto a 'fit note' what the symptoms are, how the employee is affected in their day to day life, whether this illness is likely to get worse/better and whether the period of absence is likely to be extended.

 

If the GP has written a sicknote and the employee has been referred onto a specialist at the Hospital, the GP won't be in a position to say what is up or how long it will likely last, are they?

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Why do people automatically assume the employer is up to no good?

 

Well his missus told them that he would be in no condition to have visitors.

Hes on some pretty strong stuff and is asleep for large parts of the day.

The manager insisted they visit and thats obviously caused the poor bugger even more anxiety. If they were really concerned about his well being then surely they would have taken the doctors note and the oh's comments into account.?

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Then they would need to visit at some point when he is awake. Or conduct a telephone meeting. Either way, the employer cannot carry out its duty of care with someone who is unwilling to speak with them.

 

If this persons depression anything work related?

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Then they would need to visit at some point when he is awake. Or conduct a telephone meeting. Either way, the employer cannot carry out its duty of care with someone who is unwilling to speak with them.

 

If this persons depression anything work related?

 

Sorry i dont know te ins and outs of it so i wouldnt like to say, i think work has hadan impact on things but he has an awful lot to contend with in his life at the moment.

I will just point out though hes not unwilling to talk to his employer, his employer is (in my opinion) making thingsworse by not taking his and his doctors and his oh's word for it.

Its a job thats reasonably unskilled and he does 23 hours a week so its not as though the company will go bust for him not being there for a few weeks.

Thats how short a period it could be, however having spoke to him today and having read the tone of the letter from his employer im not so sure a few weeks will cut it.

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Ive got this friend who has had a really hard time recently. So much so that hes hit a sort of dip in his life and is now being looked after by the GP. Hes also getting some councilling for his problems but that dosent start for another week or so.

Anyhow, hes off work with it and has sent in his sick notes to his employer but the other day he got a phone call from them asking if he could go in.

He cant because most of his day is spent sleeping due to the meds from the doc but work are insisting.

His partner put her foot down and said he cant come in for now so they have decided they are going to visit him at home.

His partner said that this isnt a good idea (hes in a real mess at the moment and needs no more stress) but work have insited.

So they are coming round to see him at home dispite his oh telling them they shouldnt. Now thequestion is

Can they do this?

Can they just turn up and demand to see him?

Can he refuse to see them?

Its causing him a lot of addes stress at the moment so any advice would be great.

Ta :)

 

 

Aye, of course they can just turn up and demand to see him - just has you have the ultimate right to refuse them entry to your property.

 

Can he refuse to see them, of course he can.

 

Maybe his company will not look kindly on his refusal to see them, and proceed to dismiss him using some piece of obscure litigation.

 

I have had this malady, it's not very pleasant, I wish him well.

 

Regards

 

Angel.

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Aye, of course they can just turn up and demand to see him - just has you have the ultimate right to refuse them entry to your property.

 

Can he refuse to see them, of course he can.

 

Maybe his company will not look kindly on his refusal to see them, and proceed to dismiss him using some piece of obscure litigation.

 

I have had this malady, it's not very pleasant, I wish him well.

 

Regards

 

Angel.

Thanks mate, ill pass that on.

Thanks also to everyone whos given advice or an opinion. Im sure hell read this at some point and get a bit of strength from whats been said.

If you do read this Des then i think your missus is hot but please ask her to stop flirting with me. Its getting difficult to say no :hihi::hihi::hihi::hihi:

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