Chris_Sleeps Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 the fact I got smacked meant that I had a subconscious relationship between running out in front of cars and pain - therefore something I would try to avoid in future. I get that with broccoli. My Mother (a wonderful woman also, I must add) thought it fine to give me a slap because I didn't like it. In this context the violence was not punitive, it was a loss of temper - no more and no less. I've said it before, but I couldn't give a solid 100% ban against smacking. There are some cases where it could be justified, but the automatic assumption that "hitting a child = discipline" is often, in my view, extremely misplaced. The child I know that is smacked the most is the one who hits his parents back the most. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Digsy Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Smacked children more successful later in life, study finds http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/6926823/Smacked-children-more-successful-later-in-life-study-finds.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeadingNorth Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 We stop the problem at source and neuter the irresponsible parents!! That doesn't deal with them, since they already exist. Preventing more of them coming into existence does not solve the problem of the ones already here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeadingNorth Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Many of those children have been poorly parented and subjected to endless violence to the extent where they normalise it. You can still establish boundaries and discipline without resorting to smacking. There are plenty of other sanctions. I've been asking for fifty years, but still don't have an answer from anybody. What do you do if your child refuses to accept these other sanctions? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronthenekred Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Smacked children more successful later in life, study finds http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/6926823/Smacked-children-more-successful-later-in-life-study-finds.html Does that conclude that children who are not smacked become failures? Do they become successful because of physical discipline or they were going to be successful anyway regardless of the violence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronthenekred Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I've been asking for fifty years, but still don't have an answer from anybody. What do you do if your child refuses to accept these other sanctions? You take it a step further and get professional help..if that doesn't help I guess no amount of physical abuse will rectify the problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suffragette1 Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 I've been asking for fifty years, but still don't have an answer from anybody. What do you do if your child refuses to accept these other sanctions? You get professional help and advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeadingNorth Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 You get professional help and advice. What advice? And how will that help when your appointment is a week on Tuesday and your child is misbehaving now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suffragette1 Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 What advice? And how will that help when your appointment is a week on Tuesday and your child is misbehaving now? Family therapy, child/educational pyschologists etc. There are also helplines available until an appointment comes through. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeadingNorth Posted February 11, 2012 Share Posted February 11, 2012 Family therapy, child/educational pyschologists etc. There are also helplines available until an appointment comes through. And what are they going to tell you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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