Skirmisher Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 My opinion still stands. Even if she was 14.5,15,16, or 37.. the groups leaders should be accountable to a degree for managing the groups conduct. Are there any laws about a 16 year old and a17 year old kissing? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leah-Lacie Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Are there any laws about a 16 year old and a17 year old kissing? Are there even any about a 14 year old and 17 year old kissing? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skirmisher Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Are there even any about a 14 year old and 17 year old kissing? Good point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
normansmum Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 No I don't think you should call the police. This is a good opportunity for you to speak openly with your daughter about emotions, relationships, contraception (yes because with the best will in the world it will come up in the next few years) and her boundaries. You are very privileged that your daughter has confided in you - stay calm and don't over react so you can keep communication open and she can trust you to confide in future. If you are angry, over react etc she may decide not to tell you something important. Good luck because it's a tough one, but she is talking to you and while ever she is talking and listening to you, I'm sure you can sort it out. Far better that she seeks your advice than her peers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rupert_Baehr Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Speak to your daughter. Speak to the leaders (better still, speak to their District Commissioner, who should've authorised the trip.) If you are dissatisfied with the supervision, have you considered becoming a leader yourself? - I'm sure they would welcome additional responsible adult volunteers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darth Vader Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 No I don't think you should call the police. This is a good opportunity for you to speak openly with your daughter about emotions, relationships, contraception (yes because with the best will in the world it will come up in the next few years) and her boundaries. You are very privileged that your daughter has confided in you - stay calm and don't over react so you can keep communication open and she can trust you to confide in future. If you are angry, over react etc she may decide not to tell you something important. Good luck because it's a tough one, but she is talking to you and while ever she is talking and listening to you, I'm sure you can sort it out. Far better that she seeks your advice than her peers. What an excellent post. To add to the fantastic advice above, if it was my daughter, I would probably ask my daughter how she felt about what had happened, and explain the options available to us both, and ask her if she felt that any particular course of action was appropriate/not appropriate, and respect her wishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loxleylovely Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Why blame the boy! His maturity is probably on parr with the 14 year old girl. He might be a really sweet boy and they had a kiss and cuddle...so get him a criminal record and make his life hell??????????? Can nobody remember what being a teenager is? Not all teenage boys are lowlife scum.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeadingNorth Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Haev you considered what the outcome might be for your daughter if you kick up a fuss? At the age of 14, it's highly likely that a fair number of her friends - and it could well be more than half of them - are no longer virgins. If they find out that her parents made an official complaint because of "kissing and cuddling" she may well find herself ostracised for the next four years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MonkeyLover Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Yes, you are over reacting. Lets be honest here (although it will upset the hand wringers) 17 years old is hardly 'Dirty old man' territory, 17 is barely 'adult' and i doubt he can even shave yet. As a father of a daughter myself, i share your concerns but you are suggesting legal action against what can only be described as a 'boy' and by the sounds of it, your daughter was consenting in her part. I appreciate you think this 'man' is too old for your daughter but when he is 75, your daughter will be 72.. is that too much of an age gap? Personally, i would invite the lad over 'For tea' as your daughters 'guest' and take the opportunity to get to know the boy a bit, voice your concerns and lay down some ground rules. I would however inform the explorers 'leaders' that this incident has happened and suggest better supervision of their groups in future. Spot on! - couldn't agree more! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MonkeyLover Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 No I don't think you should call the police. This is a good opportunity for you to speak openly with your daughter about emotions, relationships, contraception (yes because with the best will in the world it will come up in the next few years) and her boundaries. You are very privileged that your daughter has confided in you - stay calm and don't over react so you can keep communication open and she can trust you to confide in future. If you are angry, over react etc she may decide not to tell you something important. Good luck because it's a tough one, but she is talking to you and while ever she is talking and listening to you, I'm sure you can sort it out. Far better that she seeks your advice than her peers. Another good post, and very sensible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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