Murphy Jnr Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Which is why I asked why the OP felt the need to disclose his sexuality, given that not everyone is as accepting as the people on here. AFterall what you do in your own time is up to you, but suddenly saying "I'm Gay" to people it is irrelevant to could make them feel they are under threat. Personally I couldn't care less, but SOME PEOPLE see it differently. Who knows, I can't answer that one. Maybe circumstances or events have forced him to tell, it happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Erikson Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Which is why I asked why the OP felt the need to disclose his sexuality, given that not everyone is as accepting as the people on here. AFterall what you do in your own time is up to you, but suddenly saying "I'm Gay" to people it is irrelevant to could make them feel they are under threat. Personally I couldn't care less, but SOME PEOPLE see it differently. I do agree with this. I don't really think there's a need to out one's sexuality at work (Unless you work in the sex industry obviously). For me, it's like religion. It should stay at home, unless people not being aware could lead to other issues. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monkey69 Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 well he might have been a flaming gay!!. in which case i think the people at work would have guessed anyhow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Badlittlepup Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 The spitting is revolting and wrong,as is the inference of child molestation.But the person is still entitled to dislke homosexuality, an attitude which ,as far as I am aware,is still not illegal. It's not illegal no. But what is illegal is expressing those views at work to a colleague who is within that group. If someone is so frothing at the mouth about it they can't control themselves they obviously have issues which would make them an unsuitable employee anyway. Keeping your gob shut about your opinions on that kind of thing at work is not a big ask and most people can manage it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Badlittlepup Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I do agree with this. I don't really think there's a need to out one's sexuality at work (Unless you work in the sex industry obviously). For me, it's like religion. It should stay at home, unless people not being aware could lead to other issues. So would you be happy to go into work and be in a situation where you were never allowed to mention you had a wife at home and kids? Because that's just flaunting your sexuality and you should keep your gob shut. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JenC Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Which is why I asked why the OP felt the need to disclose his sexuality, given that not everyone is as accepting as the people on here. AFterall what you do in your own time is up to you, but suddenly saying "I'm Gay" to people it is irrelevant to could make them feel they are under threat. Personally I couldn't care less, but SOME PEOPLE see it differently. However, they could have felt threatened more so if he'd turned up to a work do (for example) with a boyfriend without anyone having previous knowledge of his sexual preference. Should he then be advised not to take a partner to such events incase people are unaccepting? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Murphy Jnr Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 This is where it would get tricky. The homosexual hides the fact longer for fear it will upset homophobes. Homophobes get upset because they have found out and what's more they're upset because they befriended you when things were "normal". I guess the OP has to weigh up. Should I be honest from the outset and risk upsetting the odd homophobe or should I keep quiet and keep every body happy, except yourself. Where were all of your other colleagues during this incident? It's weird but I suppose if it doesn't offend you in any way it's hard to comprehend how someone can be so changeable when they find out. Clearly the friend part was a myth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Erikson Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 So would you be happy to go into work and be in a situation where you were never allowed to mention you had a wife at home and kids? Because that's just flaunting your sexuality and you should keep your gob shut. That's not sexual orientation though is it? Sexual orientation is assumed by saying you have a wife. Saying I have a wife or partner is part of normal conversation. Coming out and saying I'm straight or gay isn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Erikson Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 It's weird but I suppose if it doesn't offend you in any way it's hard to comprehend how someone can be so changeable when they find out. Clearly the friend part was a myth. I agree but sex is a thing some people get offended by. You wouldn't expect a racist to go around proclaiming that they are racist, same as I an atheist wouldn't go round proclaiming that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AJ sheffield Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Maybe is kids are male and because you're gay he might think you're a paedophile too Back when I was growing up this was the most bandied about piece of crap associated with gay men, its a terrible thing to say about anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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