Nataliie Posted March 7, 2012 Share Posted March 7, 2012 I don't think you can stop loving someone, not if you truly did love them. But I think you can fall out of love with them, and kind of forget. You need to move on either way, it's not healthy and you're not helping yourself. It does take time, but it will happen eventually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 7, 2012 Share Posted March 7, 2012 ...Time is a great healer. ... It is, but sometimes it needs a helping hand (or a hefty shove); after six months, the pain can be as sharp as it ever was if much of that time is spent obsessing about the relationship and the reasons for its failure. The OP needs to do two things: - remove, as far as possible, any reminders of the ex and the relationship. Box up any photographs, gifts and such like and store them in the attic. Stop playing 'your' music and visiting 'your' places. - come up with strategies to distract yourself from certain trains of thought. Dwelling on thoughts of what's past is destructive, serving only to keep those memories alive, active and painful. When you find yourself ruminating about the relationship - stop it! Replace those thoughts with something else. Do something else, something engrossing and sufficiently demanding that it will take you away from what you were dwelling on. You do need time to dull the pain, there's no doubt about that, but you also need to spend that time being active and not passively waiting to feel differently while continuing to obsess about a broken relationship. If you continue to struggle, then I wonder if it might help to seek out some professional help. It can be very difficult to get back on your feet if, for example, you crave the comforting security that being in a happy relationship provides, and you don't have the support of close friendships and solid family ties to fall back on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spider1 Posted March 7, 2012 Share Posted March 7, 2012 Trouble with you mate is you cant take a hint . Try being a man and build a bridge and get over it for sake of the kids and give yourself a chance of a future relationship. If she dumped you see her for what she is . The ex will dispise you all the more if you are a wimp :hihi: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rickiethecat Posted March 7, 2012 Share Posted March 7, 2012 Sorry can't give advice, we have a tory government and that means people are preeched to to be even more selfish and bigoted than normal. If you want something, do it yourself. Is it really necessary to have a pop at the Tory government in every post you make, regardless of the relevance to the thread topic? It might have been funny once but now it's just boring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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