Does being a single mum put men off??

[NorthernStar]

....and who said romance is dead

 

It is when they've got kids:D

[Resident]

It's definitely a no goer for me, if I wanted to have children I'd want them to be mine.

 

Children make life complicated, especially if there's a weekend dad on the scene.

 

I've been in a relationship with a single mother with a "weekend dad"

 

I decided to be pro-active about it . I invited him out for a drink, just me and him and laid my cards on the table. Told him straight up that I wasn't there to replace him and the child would always be his & that disputes over child-care between him and his child's mother would be between them, I wouldn't get involved (told that to her too). But I did say that I wouldn't take kindly to being dicked about

 

He was gracious about it and said that he appreciated me being man enough to set the record straight from the start & we got on fine.

 

It's all about how you handle things initially that sets the tone.

[*Belle*]

Hi everyone...just wondering if men are put off going on date or starting a relationship with someone who is a single mum. Be honest

 

No Glitz, not the men, just the boys

[Halibut]

Hi everyone...just wondering if men are put off going on date or starting a relationship with someone who is a single mum. Be honest

 

Some men are. I wasn't. Best decision I ever made.

[vwkittie]

Don't know about single mums as I'm female but I'd never be interested in a bloke whoa already had children. Don't know why it would just completely put me off.

[Lucifer]

Hi everyone...just wondering if men are put off going on date or starting a relationship with someone who is a single mum. Be honest

 

There as implications which need to be addressed :-

Is she a single mum because,

Widow,

Divorcee,

Unmarried.

What is the relation between the child and the natural father,

Who will be responsibile for the child in a new relationship,

And those are just a few questions that have to be decided.

[Shoesme]

I wouldn't care if she had a child, although as a single dad myself i have noticed that women are put off by this, unless they just used that as an excuse

[Nataliie]

I personally wouldn't date a guy with a child, but that's purely because I don't want children or to be with someone who has that responsibility just yet. In the future that'll probably change when I get to the point when/if I want children myself.

 

I think it bothers men less though, most guys I know have or are dating someone with a child.

 

I think you'll just attract people who are at the same point in life as you are

[rickiethecat]

Agreed,no chance of me dating a woman with kids.they hold you back you cant do what you want when you want.No thanks.

 

I agree and I would also be concerned as to why she was a single mum. I believe that having a child is such a huge commitment that the parents should make every effort to stay together rather than taking the selfish option of splitting up as soon as they get bored of the relationship.

[livvysdad]

Hi , No i dont think it does put men off seeing a single mum as long as your open and honest from the start, Men dont tend to like suprises in small packages , ive been with my single mum for 10 years and married her 3 years ago , best thing that ever happened to me , good luck.