Does being a single mum put men off??

[Cat86]

It's definitely a no goer for me, if I wanted to have children I'd want them to be mine.

 

Children make life complicated, especially if there's a weekend dad on the scene.

 

I agree with that. I wouldnt go for a man with kids. Done it once before and long term, just too complicated. I cant be doing with the ties- in the future I want my own family- thats a bit old fashioned- a mum, dad and kids.. no extras from anywhere else.

 

Each to their own, depends what you want out of life.

[fozzybear210]

Not at all. Everyone has a past. I once dated a girl who had a child and it really didn't bother me. If me and my wife ever split up and I put myself back on the market, I wouldn't want women to be put off by the fact that I have a son.

[Lucifer]

Hi , No i dont think it does put men off seeing a single mum as long as your open and honest from the start, Men dont tend to like suprises in small packages , ive been with my single mum for 10 years and married her 3 years ago , best thing that ever happened to me , good luck.

 

Did it take you seven years to decide then to commit fully. ?.

[GodStar]

When I was younger yes, would never consider it. BUT I'm a bit grown up now so a single mum would not put me off

 

In other words now youre a bit more desperate!

[GodStar]

Hi everyone...just wondering if men are put off going on date or starting a relationship with someone who is a single mum. Be honest

 

Some will be, so it limits the size of the pool of men to an extent. Very few men will actively seek a woman with a child after all. I've dated a couple of women with children (older..12+) and the main problem was there was no opportunity for spontaneity in the relationship as childminders had to be booked etc. In short..they got in the way a bit.

[GodStar]

No Glitz, not the men, just the boys

 

RUbbish........

[missymoo73]

I think it depends.

 

I have to say its me that more cautious tbh. I have been separated from my hubster for nearly 10 years and have had 3 serious relationships in that time and only one every got to meet my children - I would never introduce them straight away - it was 6 months that he got to meet them.

[livvysdad]

Did it take you seven years to decide then to commit fully. ?.

 

No not at all, we would have done it sooner had we been able to afford it, my commitment shouldn't be in question..

[Suffragette1]

I think that it mostly depends on what age a man is and what stage in life he is at. Most young men (I mean late teens-twenties) would probably run a mile from a young woman with a kid/kids as it is totally out of their sphere of reference, requires a degree of maturity as well as a certain amount of planning.

 

Once men start hitting their 30s and beyond, their chances of meeting a single woman without children tend to diminish somewhat so most people (of both sexes), unless they were particularly anti-kids, would broaden their options and be more open to the possibility. I think that a lot also depends on whether or not the man himself has children.

 

Blended families, in my experience, or rather the experiences of my friends who grew up in one and/or are part of one, are quite complex and these situations need to be managed sensitively.

[mediumfast]

I met my now wife when I was twenty ,she was twenty one after the initial suprise when she told me she had a two year old daughter I decided to get on with it ,that was twenty years ago and it never stopped me doing anything and I certainly wouldn't have changed a thing.