ronthenekred Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Better the loyal one that you know than the chancer that you don't. Rather be in love with a 'chancer' than hang on because of loyalty TBH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Un Suited Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Rather be in love with a 'chancer' than hang on because of loyalty TBH Love is a misunderstanding between two idiots. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bypassblade Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Caring about someone is not loving them, talk to each other find common ground, if you cannot then a split could be the best. I'm not a marriage consellor, but its surprising how many people live together for years ok, get wed & the magic dies, its sad. I met my wife on a blind date in 91; lived together 5 years (set up by me bro & his missus), been married 15 this October, I hope you can work something out too many give up too soon these days. It sounds to me like you want attention from him, don't look elsewhere give it a go, I tell my missus I love her every day & have done so for 20 years. I have missed one day, on that day I was unconscious in intensive care so couldn't talk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J's Mum Posted July 24, 2012 Author Share Posted July 24, 2012 That's so sweet, hubby tells me he loves me if he's pushed ino t and has ha a drink, he doesn't do emotion Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Un Suited Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 That's so sweet' date=' hubby tells me he loves me if he's pushed ino t and has ha a drink, he doesn't do emotion[/quote'] Buy him a bottle of gin every day. Then knee him in the groin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J's Mum Posted July 24, 2012 Author Share Posted July 24, 2012 It does scare me as he's always there and predictable but I don't know if I'm ready to settle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isabelle Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Ultimately, no-one on here (on anywhere else) can make the decision for you. Good luck, whatever you decide. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bypassblade Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 It does scare me as he's always there and predictable but I don't know if I'm ready to settle Best of luck with whatever you decide to do, it took me a 2nd attempt to get it right lol, but she is all I could ever want & more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suffragette1 Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Relationships are cyclical and it sounds like you're in a rut. Personally, I would suggest relationship counselling to get the bottom of what the issues are; it doesn't sound like your husband is a great communicator. If you just don't love him anymore and vice versa, as there are no kids, I'd end it. If however you do still love one another and want to be together, give it your best shot. Most people go through periods of ennui and your life sounds challenging, caring for your mother. As for the other chap, don't go there. It'll just confuse you more and you may make a decision based on the wrong reasons to then regret it. Good luck. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrs grissom Posted July 24, 2012 Share Posted July 24, 2012 Can you not take some time away from home for a while? Try moving in with your Mum as you said and see how you feel away from things. Forever is a long time and youre still a young woman . As others have said , it's not a good idea to start summat with another man while things are unresolved at home . Maybe the feelings you are starting to have for the new one are nothing more than being bored at home and being fed with being taken for granted. It's not easy being a full time carer either , I know , I did it for a long time and still am . You can easily lose your identity and self worth,but embarking on an affair to liven things up is not the answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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