SiSiSi Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 I couldn't think of a better title for this thread, so opologies in advance. In 1993 I held my mum's hand as she passed away. In 2005 I held my dad's hand as he passed away. To be present at the moment of death of both of your parents is probably quite rare. Then again, it might not be. Some people have told me that I was fortunate to be there, some have told me that I was not. Personally I don't know, sometimes I'm glad I was there and sometimes I wish I hadn't been. Any thoughts on this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
woolytrumper Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 That must have been really difficult. I do think that if you can be there for someone close when they pass away you should be, but that is my opinion. I do feel you have been lucky to have been there as you could say your very personal good byes, not infront of a few people at a funeral service but up close to the person that it is meant for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr Bloke Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 I couldn't think of a better title for this thread, so opologies in advance. In 1993 I held my mum's hand as she passed away. In 2005 I held my dad's hand as he passed away. To be present at the moment of death of both of your parents is probably quite rare. Then again, it might not be. Some people have told me that I was fortunate to be there, some have told me that I was not. Personally I don't know, sometimes I'm glad I was there and sometimes I wish I hadn't been. Any thoughts on this? I have had a very similar experience - Dad in 1999 and Mum in 2010. I can honestly say that I have never doubted for a single minute that I was fortunate to be with them to the very last moment, and found some comfort in the fact that they both knew that I was there for them like they had been for me all my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SiSiSi Posted October 25, 2012 Author Share Posted October 25, 2012 I have had a very similar experience - Dad in 1999 and Mum in 2010. I can honestly say that I have never doubted for a single minute that I was fortunate to be with them to the very last moment, and found some comfort in the fact that they both knew that I was there for them like they had been for me all my life. Thanks for that my friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeteMorris Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 I'm afraid I wasn't there when my dad passed away, and to be honest, I'm not sure I wanted to be. I have fond memories of the good times. Not horrible images of his last painful moments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wornout53 Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 I was with my dad in 1986 and my mum in 1994....I actually gave my mum cpr. I know that it was meant to be that way and my last moments with each of them are precious memories that no one can ever take away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CarolW Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 My dad died in 2010 and mum at christmas last year... They were both in hospital and on both occasions, the hospital called me to tell me to get there as soon as I could. I held their hands as they passed over, I said goodbye - and thinking it over afterwards, I was glad I could be there. My brother lives in the USA and obviously couldn't be there, but at the end, neither of them were on their own in the hospital. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vague_Boy Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Some people have told me that I was fortunate to be there, some have told me that I was not. Personally I think you were fortunate but I guess it depends on the individual. Death isn't quite the taboo it was in Victorian times but it's a subject people prefer not to think/talk about too much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janus Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 Si, I’m curious why you have asked the question. Not that I feel there is anything wrong in asking. Beyond that, I would say it is right if that is what an individual desires. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Priorylady Posted October 25, 2012 Share Posted October 25, 2012 My mum died last year. We (all her children and most of her grandchildren) were there at the end. It was the worse moment of my life, but I don't regret being there, it seemed right for us all to be there to spend those last precious minutes with her, to say goodbye to her and support each other in our grief. it was right for us, but that doesn't mean that it would be right for everyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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