truman Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 genuinely wasnt a troll. like i said before, has she tried talking to them? why involve others straight away. Easy solution and the problem with today, its always up to someone else to solve your problems etc I suppose if you're an 8 stone woman and the bully is a 16 stone bloke you may have some difficulty in sorting it out alone...not necessarily the case here but you get the gist? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stegwah Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 I suppose if you're an 8 stone woman and the bully is a 16 stone bloke you may have some difficulty in sorting it out alone...not necessarily the case here but you get the gist? Very true. like i said read my other posts. about talking to him about it. and if not then pack up and leave. Love how easy you guys jump down my throat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gazza58 Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 read below my other posts. i have asked lots of questions and asked if she has spoken to him about it. hence, why i wasnt trolling. Yes you gave some decent advice eventually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
truman Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 Very true. like i said read my other posts. about talking to him about it. and if not then pack up and leave. Love how easy you guys jump down my throat I haven't jumped down your throat....maybe she feels too intimidated to talk to him..maybe she's tried and got a wallop for it...who knows..? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrs patching Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 You must get advice and get out. There will be a time in the future when you will see you have done the right thing. It is scary at the moment but you will find strength when you have peace of mind and a new life to look forward to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joanne b Posted January 24, 2013 Author Share Posted January 24, 2013 If any one sees a cheap flat 2 bedroom out of the manor area plz let me know thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Waldo Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 Try calling the Domestic Violence Helpline: http://www.nationaldomesticviolencehelpline.org.uk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinfoilhat Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 Work out an exit plan (ie where you can stop for a short while until you're sorted) then pack a bag and leave, ideally when his isn't there to make life awkward, get out ASAP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Isabelle Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 If any one sees a cheap flat 2 bedroom out of the manor area plz let me know thanks Do you have any friends or family you could live with on a temporary basis? Or even someone to just confide in would help I'm sure. I have experience of this and I know its hard to talk to a partner about leaving, especially if you are worried about their reaction. Having a break is a good idea. It doesn't mean it is permanent; maybe he is willing to change if he knows how unhappy you are, but I'm afraid some people think it is normal and acceptable to treat people badly, and will never change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mel's Mum Posted January 24, 2013 Share Posted January 24, 2013 how long have you been with him? i used to live next door to a man who beat his wife. rang the police many times and went round aswell. In the end she never left him. Is he approachable? could you sit and talk about it with him? if not i suggest you pack up and leave. rent somewhere cheap and cut all contact with him. its for the best he probably is approachable and she probably can talk to him but chances are all the talk will go out the window when his mood switches! To the OP, a bully is unlikely to change and if you want to escape, a women's refuge is a good start and they will also help you with the practicalities such as benefits and housing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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