Guest Pauly Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Don't know about 'going through' a mid-life crisis. He could be just at the end of one. Or maybe the recent breakdown has made him appreciate what he's got and can be proud of. It's called counting your blessings and it's all healthy. I'm still changing (career and other things) and have alot of self-discovery to do yet. It's all good to look back on though when you get to the other side. When I get to my parents age I'll probably look back and laugh at the things I worry about now. *sigh* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam Miguel Posted February 13, 2004 Author Share Posted February 13, 2004 I think you might be right. That's what I have been trying to put it down to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Martin_s Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 I don't plan of "finding myself" until about a split second before I pop my clogs... until then it's just one big learning experience Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alert_bri Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 Sam - look back over your 48 years and take some time to seriously appreciate all the best things you've achieved - now realise how incredible you are to have done all that cool stuff and ask yourself, are you done? is there nothing else you really want to do or see or have that you haven't yet? Sit down with the ones you love and do some dream building - share ideas of what you're happy with and want more of. Start making simple plans to achieve more of what you want in life and get out there and make your life mean something more!!! You know you deserve it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phanerothyme Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 I found myself this morning. I just threw back the duvet and there I was. I know what you mean about the mental ping pong thing - I have settled for camoflaging myself as a normal (i.e. everyone else) but still feel comfortable in my own personal reality tunnel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam Miguel Posted February 13, 2004 Author Share Posted February 13, 2004 It's six years ago to the day since my dad's funeral. perhaps this has brought on my gloom! Anyway, this is a poem I wrote just after he died. A Strange Time in My Life …There was a strange time in my life of blinkered hope of disbelief. Those wrenching thoughts of death dismissed… Need Mother there to say goodnight to soothe me through the storms of life. Future scenes drawn from the past that Christmas was to be her last. …There was a strange time in my life though fourteen years had bridged the pain. Those cold-chill thoughts of death ignored… Need Father there to give advice To make me think not once but twice. Blind faith in what the future brings he never reached the waiting spring. …And in the strange times in my life despair and hope stand side by side. Though wiser feet Now tread life’s path… Do words of wisdom etched inside mean higher mountains can be climbed? The present is the place to be . It lasts for all eternity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elf Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 I know where you are coming from ( i think). My moment of revelation happened about 4 years ago when I had my daughter and her father rejected her. It made me realise how important your friends and your family are, unconditional love is the only thing that got me and my daughter through all the badness that happened. Now I realise its the people in my life that count, image and materialism really does not matter. Another book which I can totally recommend is "Veronica decides to die" by Paulo Cohelo, it totally makes the point that life is for living, no matter what you do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam Miguel Posted February 13, 2004 Author Share Posted February 13, 2004 Thanks, Elf. It's a great help to get advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alert_bri Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough Without ever having felt sorry for itself. D.H. Lawrence Life is for living - get on with it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Babooshka Posted February 13, 2004 Share Posted February 13, 2004 'Veronika decides to die' is a great book! I also recommend one called 'Inner Beauty'. No, it is not some beauty book for girls, but one that takes 25 human qualities and has a page dedicated to each one explaining their meaning, their importance and value, and how to recognise and develop these qualities in yourself. It is not a self-help book, but a series of beautifully written passages. It really does make you feel human! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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