Children in cafés and restaurants

[petcharlie]

Even as a 3/4 year old? Pfft, I bet!!

 

I think we have found the problem.You should be well on your way to having control of your child by the time they have reached 4 years old.If you start after that age I think you will find you have lost.At that age they should be able to mix and socialise ,after all they will be schooling at any time .

[aliceBB]

I think we have found the problem.You should be well on your way to having control of your child by the time they have reached 4 years old.If you start after that age I think you will find you have lost.At that age they should be able to mix and socialise ,after all they will be schooling at any time .

 

Absolutely. If your kids are regularly running riot and screaming in public places when they are four, you have probably left it a bit late. I feel sorry for their teacher...-although, to be fair, many 5 years olds do what they are told at school even if they do not behave well at home. Interesting! What does that suggest?

[Bonzo77]

I think we have found the problem.You should be well on your way to having control of your child by the time they have reached 4 years old.If you start after that age I think you will find you have lost.At that age they should be able to mix and socialise ,after all they will be schooling at any time .

 

My child is incredibly well behaved for his age. He hardly ever plays up. But he still likes to raise his voice, he's 4. He's just realised that he can be naughty just to be naughty. He's the most sociable kid in nursery. They love him there. But from time to time, he'll play up. He did it today in the supermarket because he wanted something he couldn't have. He's 4!

 

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Absolutely. If your kids are regularly running riot and screaming in public places when they are four, you have probably left it a bit late. I feel sorry for their teacher...-although, to be fair, many 5 years olds do what they are told at school even if they do not behave well at home. Interesting! What does that suggest?

 

I never said my kid runs riot all the time. And you are accusing others of twisting your words!?

 

Pathetic!

[aliceBB]

 

I never said my kid runs riot all the time. And you are accusing others of twisting your words!?

 

 

And nor did I. This is not all about you, or your children. It is about those children who are antisocially loud and disruptive in restaurants and cafes, and how their parents deal (or fail to deal) with them.

[Bonzo77]

And nor did I. This is not all about you, or your children. It is about those children who are antisocially loud and disruptive in restaurants and cafes, and how their parents deal (or fail to deal) with them.

 

The post you responded to was directed at me. You were (or so it seemed) agreeing with the post, you even confirmed the age of the child as 4, which is how old my son (almost) is.

[aliceBB]

The post you responded to was directed at me. You were (or so it seemed) agreeing with the post, you even confirmed the age of the child as 4, which is how old my son (almost) is.

 

Please be assured that I am not in the least interested in you or your child/ren personally. As I said, this is not all about you. In any case, a 4 year old raising his voice occasionally when in a supermarket is not 'screaming and running riot', is it? It sounds like perfectly normal 4 year old behaviour to me. The theme of the thread is antisocially rowdy and out-of-control behaviour.

 

I said four years old as that is the age at which most children begin school and need to be be able to be quiet for reasonable periods of time (as well as be successful in lots of other social and personal activities). If they cannot do it by four, it's a worry.

[Jeffrey Shaw]

Please be assured that I am not in the least interested in you or your child/ren personally. As I said, this is not all about you. In any case, a 4 year old raising his voice occasionally when in a supermarket is not 'screaming and running riot', is it? It sounds like perfectly normal 4 year old behaviour to me. The theme of the thread is antisocially rowdy and out-of-control behaviour.

 

I said four years old as that is the age at which most children begin school and need to be be able to be quiet for reasonable periods of time (as well as be successful in lots of other social and personal activities). If they cannot do it by four, it's a worry.

I agree.

Also: is a quiet restaurant offering expensive meals an appropriate place to take a small person unused to such ambiances?

A cafe's scarcely the same; children might reasonably be present there amid the hustle and bustle.

[hyper]

ironic really, reading some posts on here.

The posters discussing childrens' behaviour are acting like unruly children themselves

gorra laff

[aliceBB]

ironic really, reading some posts on here.

The posters discussing childrens' behaviour are acting like unruly children themselves

gorra laff

 

Er...the topic of the thread is children's behaviour.

 

So - in your mature (albeit illiterately expressed) opinion, are ALL the contributors to this thread acting like unruly children, or just some of them?

[Ms Macbeth]

I've got grown up children and young grandchildren. Occasionally they'll eat out in nice places, the older two at 5 and 7 know that if they misbehave they'll be removed, so they don't. The little one who is two, is usually pretty good when there's food around, but occasionally she'll get bored and that's when its our (responsible adults) job to ensure her behaviour doesn't encroach on other diners. We always take books, crayons and the odd toy.

 

If we take the children into Maccy D's (they all think a rare visit is a great treat ) and they are a bit loud it doesn't really matter because no-one who goes there can realistically expect much else! They are pretty good in comparison to some of the children I've seen who appear to be accompanied by totally disinterested adults and allowed free rein. Now we accept that to be the case in MacDonalds and other similar eateries, but if adults take children to more upmarket restaurants or hotels, then its up to those adults to ensure their child's behaviour doesn't impact negatively on others who have paid good money to dine there.