ubermaus Posted March 9, 2015 Author Share Posted March 9, 2015 (edited) Using social media is not a substitute for interacting in real life though. It's complementary, and given that most social skills are learned as a child, it's not likely to reduce the amount of social contact that people have, it's an addition to it. Social skills are learnt and improved by doing. Practice continually. I guarantee you would not learn business networking skills as a 3 year old! Edited March 9, 2015 by ubermaus .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tzijlstra Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 You can't learn social skills online. Not possible. ---------- Post added 09-03-2015 at 14:57 ---------- Read about it. Yes. Learn and apply. No. Again, says who? As you are aware, I am a PhD in this field, I have read nothing to suggest that anything you say is relevant. There is no scientific proof for your claim at all. There are however plenty of studies that indicate a positive effect on social networks (as in people a person knows) due to social media. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubermaus Posted March 9, 2015 Author Share Posted March 9, 2015 Again, says who? As you are aware, I am a PhD in this field, I have read nothing to suggest that anything you say is relevant. There is no scientific proof for your claim at all. There are however plenty of studies that indicate a positive effect on social networks (as in people a person knows) due to social media. I co-ran the biggest social forum in the north of uk for 4 years. I certainly know and met plenty of introverted types. Hundreds. And read thousands of articles and books on the subject. And my opinion is the only way to improve is to apply. Its not a static skill. It atrophies. Social skills are not something you can learn properly online. Read and absorb. Yes. But the application in real world is the important bit. Without that youre just an introverted dude with a bunch of theory. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyclone Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Social skills are learnt and improved by doing. Practice continually. I guarantee you would not learn business networking skills as a 3 year old! I'm not sure what your point is though. Why do you imagine that people who use social media, stop interacting in real life? ---------- Post added 09-03-2015 at 15:23 ---------- I co-ran the biggest social forum in the north of uk for 4 years. I certainly know and met plenty of introverted types. Hundreds. And read thousands of articles and books on the subject. And my opinion is the only way to improve is to apply. Its not a static skill. It atrophies. Social skills are not something you can learn properly online. Read and absorb. Yes. But the application in real world is the important bit. Without that youre just an introverted dude with a bunch of theory. You know what the plural of anecdote is? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubermaus Posted March 9, 2015 Author Share Posted March 9, 2015 I'm not sure what your point is though. Why do you imagine that people who use social media, stop interacting in real life? ---------- Post added 09-03-2015 at 15:23 ---------- You know what the plural of anecdote is? Where did I say people who use social media stop interacting in real life? Its you that misses the point. ---------- Post added 09-03-2015 at 15:32 ---------- Story? Nope truth. I had problems which am not afraid to admit so thats why i got into the whole scene. Then eventually bought the forum i was using. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
perplexed Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Social media is fine, but from my observation, it's a time and a place thing. I would argue its made people unwittingly ruder. Example: Meeting someone in a physical (as opposed to virtual) situation who we've not seen for years at their instigation. During the meet up at a meal out, their phone comes out numerous times to enable them to 'socialise'. Even to the point when they totally switch off from you in mid-sentence whilst they stare at the screen. Literally leaving you in mid-sentence like a chump. I've even finished talking by saying something utterly nonsensical and they've not noticed. That's ignorant and it's not isolated. I've seen others do it at work to others. They haven't the social grace to just wait for a few moments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tzijlstra Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I co-ran the biggest social forum in the north of uk for 4 years. I certainly know and met plenty of introverted types. Hundreds. And read thousands of articles and books on the subject. And my opinion is the only way to improve is to apply. Its not a static skill. It atrophies. Social skills are not something you can learn properly online. Read and absorb. Yes. But the application in real world is the important bit. Without that youre just an introverted dude with a bunch of theory. Your exaggerated claims are getting boring ubermaus, I realise you don't like me (couldn't care less) but posts like this just make you look like an ignorant bully. As for my 'bunch of theory' and 'introvertness' you have still failed to demonstrate how you can not be sociable through social media. What you have demonstrated though is that you can't be sociable on a forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubermaus Posted March 9, 2015 Author Share Posted March 9, 2015 Your exaggerated claims are getting boring ubermaus, I realise you don't like me (couldn't care less) but posts like this just make you look like an ignorant bully. As for my 'bunch of theory' and 'introvertness' you have still failed to demonstrate how you can not be sociable through social media. What you have demonstrated though is that you can't be sociable on a forum I never said that about you so keep your wig on. The example wasnt directed at anyone in particular. I was explaining why its important to practice in real life. ---------- Post added 09-03-2015 at 16:43 ---------- I would not claim we can't be social through social media btw. It has its uses. The timing has to be right and compliment life. Software like ifttt helps to sync accounts. Leaving more time to do other stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Cid Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 I certainly know and met plenty of introverted types. Hundreds. And read thousands of articles and books on the subject. I assume that these introverts are not young people, and their introversion caused by social networks? Facebook has only been around for 10 years. ---------- Post added 09-03-2015 at 17:50 ---------- That's ignorant and it's not isolated. I've seen others do it at work to others. They haven't the social grace to just wait for a few moments. They were made without social graces by their lack of parenting, which would have been pre-facebook. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solomon1 Posted March 9, 2015 Share Posted March 9, 2015 Vacuous and needy? Or helpful? Have you seen ? Been off facebook for 3 months and definitely feel free-er, less tied down and have more time! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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