Why do I make bad/wrong choices

[johnnyeng]

For some reason I end up making bad/wrong choices I dont feel like im doing its after I get told that all choices I make is wrong like for instance I went to hospital with a friend to support her while giving my keys to my other friend coz they were stopping only to not get my key back coz I didnt know where they were only got them back today then asking a friend to fetch me to take me home as I didnt want to go alone in dark in this hour only by putting his life and hour on the line as theres idiots about at this time I seem to f*** things up for everybody and everyone I mean what is wrong with me I cant even let go of my ex I still love them and I dont know why when I shouldnt and mustnt clearly and basically im f***** in the head.

 

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Oh and Im poison

[whitewitch]

We all make bad choices, thats life, but we learn by recognising we have made a bad choice & try not to make that same choice again.

[johnnyeng]

But thats the thing I dont get anything from by it I do get toldthsat things go from one ear and out the next I think im finding it difficult to understand the choices that I make and the consequences

[aliceBB]

But thats the thing I dont get anything from by it I do get toldthsat things go from one ear and out the next I think im finding it difficult to understand the choices that I make and the consequences

 

So how can we help you?

[johnnyeng]

So how can we help you?

 

Thats something I ll have to figure out.

[Waldo]

It's a very good question. I think, it can often be because we are agitated, not balanced and deeply settled within. The longer we take to consider, the less rushed we feel, the better...

 

When we feel rushed. When others are stressed and agitated and pushing us to make a decision, if we allow ourselves to be unbalanced by them, we make mistakes.

Edited March 15, 2015 by Waldo

[skinz]

It's a very good question. I think, it can often be because we are agitated, not balanced and deeply settled within. The longer we take to consider, the less rushed we feel, the better...

 

When we feel rushed. When others are stressed and agitated and pushing us to make a decision, if we allow ourselves to be unbalanced by them, we make mistakes.

 

Mistakes can also be made if we try to impress through low self esteem, loneliness, insecurity etc. Having the inability to stand back, asses the boundaries of your capabilities. The need for acceptance can cause many relationship issues.

[Waldo]

Mistakes can also be made if we try to impress through low self esteem, loneliness, insecurity etc. Having the inability to stand back, asses the boundaries of your capabilities. The need for acceptance can cause many relationship issues.

 

Completely agree. Not understanding our own self worth, not valuing ourselves, all the while, perhaps over-esteeming others; or seeking any other form of external validation ... it is all acting from or coming from the wrong place.

 

I think people often overlook or just don't see at all, that what is good and valuable about themselves.

 

Understandable really, when you consider all the images of what success looks like, the media feeds us....

[El Cid]

I cant even let go of my ex I still love them and I dont know why when I shouldnt and mustnt clearly and basically im f***** in the head.

Oh and Im poison

 

You are feeling emotional at the moment? Perhaps you are making the right choices, for you, not the choices that others would make.

Its not easy to let go, not sure if I should be letting go, but I know that I dont want to.

[Janus]

Try to engage with sensible "experienced" (older ?) people, and take notice. Make decissions with your head, not decissions based on emotions/feelings.