Solomon1 Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 And it's easy to say but harder to do' date=' il be at work all day but when I get home is when I start to go over what has happened in the old releationship, il remember the good things and the bad things won't seem so bad, then il get upset, miss the ex and the whole circle starts again and I don't want to keep doing that[/quote'] I see ............ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mad dog Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 Hi there J's Mum, Let me first start by saying, being alone is simply a state of mind. Not that your fears are simple but it seems from what you have said, you have time to explore other activities. There are so many groups and volunteer organizations that would welcome you and will expand your the circles you move around in. Try looking for things that interest YOU. For example an allotment would be a good place to start if you have time on your hands. You can find that there is a great comradeship between plot holders. Maybe look at some of the dreams you had an reinvent them. It's not an easy question to answer and I'm sure that when you come out the other side you will be wiser and more confident My heart is with you and all my best wishes x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J's Mum Posted March 19, 2015 Author Share Posted March 19, 2015 Thank you, I guess il only know if I can do it when I do, just quite scary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GLASGOWOODS Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 Thank you' date=' I guess il only know if I can do it when I do, just quite scary[/quote'] I used to live on my own. I never felt lonely (too busy) but what you could try is something i used to do. Put the radio on, but not music. A channel such as radio 4. That way it sounds like there are other people chatting away in your home and (interesting topics) while you're in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cressida Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 Go on coach trips - at the weekend if you work Monday to Friday. I go, sometimes with a friend and neighbour and sometimes on my own, I go antique hunting, have a nice lunch and buy a paper/magazines to read on the coach if I'm on my own. Always give yourself something to look forward to;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alcoblog Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 Schizophrenia's good to have for combating loneliness. There's always someone to talk to ... even if you're by yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mad dog Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 (edited) Thank you' date=' I guess il only know if I can do it when I do, just quite scary[/quote'] Start now, then when the time comes you will have a support network. Edited March 19, 2015 by mad dog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
illuminati9 Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 Oh my lordy lord! Lucky you! I wish I was bored....there ain't enough time int day for all the things I'd like to get done!! Get outside, go for a walk! Go to the cinema! Read a book! Campaign for a cause! Volunteer for summat you care about! Have a hot bath! Help a friend! Go to the sauna! Phone a friend! Visit a friend! Go to the Sculpture park! Go on holiday! Watch a film on Netflix! Surf the web! Basically - there ain't no such word as bored. Really there isn't or post as many as possiable on internet forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WeedNoMore Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 I'm soon to be living alone but being alone scares me' date=' how do you or others combat this?[/quote'] Its hard. Really hard at times and i wish i could give you an easy answer or even any answer of any use. Ive typed, deleted re-typed and re-deleted. Eventually i bit the bullet and posted. Sorry its probably not much use but i do hope you manage. If you do come up with a solution, please share? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tzijlstra Posted March 19, 2015 Share Posted March 19, 2015 @J's Mum the only thing that can fight loneliness is by not being lonely. Although that sounds elementary, it is actually really difficult for a lot of people. I have neighbours that decided to share a house to combat loneliness, perhaps that is a solution? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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