top4718 Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 Seems like an extreme reaction, probably because she fears being excluded and made aware of her own phobia which triggers guilt. You need to talk to her. Maybe get her to go on one of those courses for people with flying phobias, so she can better understand her fears or a general one for claustophobia? Its just a holiday. You and your chil will survive without it, just as her world wont fall apart if you go. Find a compromise and talk to her. I don think it helps if you start calling her unreasonable. If its a genuine issue then you need to help her find a solution. I had looked into the flying phobias courses but are they more of a fear of flying because the plane may crash or do they also deal with claustrophobic type fears. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
999tigger Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 There are cahrities like anxiety uk who deal with claustrophobia. If you are too agressive or dismissive in her concerns then she may go defensive and dig her heels in as a push back. Its important you talk as then that opens the options of finding a solution rather than arguments. Will she go to see her GP, will she do anything about it? I'd think the fear of flying courses deal with both. It might be better if she undergoes some CBT/NLP therapy to deal with it. I dont know her, so its hard to estiate how she might react and how willing she would be to do anything about it. The compromise could be if she goes on a cbt course to deal with her fear, then if after full completion she is still unwilling, then you wont go. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-19255087 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeteMorris Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 (Spanner in the works) I hope you're not thinking of taking the child out of school in term time?..... Personally, I would. But that's just me. Your problem is, that your OH needs some kind of therapy. Not just for this occasion, but in general. Pretty soon she won't go in a lift...etc etc.... The issue is, by the time she can probably have access to that kind of help, and bearing in mind, it's not just a single visit and have someone magically cure it in one session. It's gonna take time, and by the time it's 'sorted' the kid will be much older...and probably too late!....Don't forget a large portion of kids from 13 up, are abducted by aliens, and they replace them with a mardy git, you don't recognise! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
herbalharry Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 For years I have said I would take my son to Orlando once he is the right age - old enough to be able to do everything but still young enough for the magic of it, he loves his films so I thought it would be a good experience, he 13 next years and i'm 50 so perfect opportunity, in the intervening years my partner has developed a fear of flying although its not so much the actual flight but being in a confined space and not being able to get out of it thats the problem, she has catergorically stated that she will never board a plane again, despite doing so many times in the past. I am prepared to take my son on my own and know another couple that are going with a child of the same age. I have mentioned this to my partner and she has gone ballistic and basically said we cannot go, I dont really want to upset my partner but feel my son will miss out on something that he would remember for the rest of his life, he's an only child and we will never get these times back, what do I do?? Can't you do something together as a family? Road trip to bognor Regis? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle-82 Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 For years I have said I would take my son to Orlando once he is the right age - old enough to be able to do everything but still young enough for the magic of it, he loves his films so I thought it would be a good experience, he 13 next years and i'm 50 so perfect opportunity, in the intervening years my partner has developed a fear of flying although its not so much the actual flight but being in a confined space and not being able to get out of it thats the problem, she has catergorically stated that she will never board a plane again, despite doing so many times in the past. I am prepared to take my son on my own and know another couple that are going with a child of the same age. I have mentioned this to my partner and she has gone ballistic and basically said we cannot go, I dont really want to upset my partner but feel my son will miss out on something that he would remember for the rest of his life, he's an only child and we will never get these times back, what do I do?? Take your Son on holiday and stuff your partner! Is this partner of yours the mother of your Son? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
top4718 Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 (Spanner in the works) I hope you're not thinking of taking the child out of school in term time?..... Personally, I would. But that's just me. Your problem is, that your OH needs some kind of therapy. Not just for this occasion, but in general. Pretty soon she won't go in a lift...etc etc.... The issue is, by the time she can probably have access to that kind of help, and bearing in mind, it's not just a single visit and have someone magically cure it in one session. It's gonna take time, and by the time it's 'sorted' the kid will be much older...and probably too late!....Don't forget a large portion of kids from 13 up, are abducted by aliens, and they replace them with a mardy git, you don't recognise! Pete I think the out of term time holiday thing is ridiculous (it went on during my school days and the education system didn't collapse) but one of the other couples works in a school so it would be in Easter holidays. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinfoilhat Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 For years I have said I would take my son to Orlando once he is the right age - old enough to be able to do everything but still young enough for the magic of it, he loves his films so I thought it would be a good experience, he 13 next years and i'm 50 so perfect opportunity, in the intervening years my partner has developed a fear of flying although its not so much the actual flight but being in a confined space and not being able to get out of it thats the problem, she has catergorically stated that she will never board a plane again, despite doing so many times in the past. I am prepared to take my son on my own and know another couple that are going with a child of the same age. I have mentioned this to my partner and she has gone ballistic and basically said we cannot go, I dont really want to upset my partner but feel my son will miss out on something that he would remember for the rest of his life, he's an only child and we will never get these times back, what do I do?? Is this a divorce-level event if you go? If it is I'd probably not go - it's only a holiday. Kid won't end up scarred because he didn't go to disneyworld, although he might if there is a nasty divorce. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
top4718 Posted February 8, 2016 Author Share Posted February 8, 2016 Take your Son on holiday and stuff your partner! Is this partner of yours the mother of your Son? Yes................. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle-82 Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 Yes................. Well I say you should still take him... you and your Son shouldn't have to miss out just because your partner is reluctant to fly. It's her loss and it may also make her realise that irrational fears such as not wanting to fly is getting in the way of experiencing wonderful moments with her family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
L00b Posted February 8, 2016 Share Posted February 8, 2016 What about sending her on an cruise for the same period you and your son would go to Orlando? Alright Sweetheart, I wouldn't want you to suffer the plane journey and then the queues, and the subtropical temperatures in 90+ humidity, the jetlag, etc. <it's going to be hell and you really don't want to be there>, how about I put you on a luxury aircon'd bus and then you go sun yourself on a boat the size of a small city around the Med, all-inclusive, at the same time? Then There Was Peace Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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