tinfoilhat Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 My "Friends" reference clearly went unnoticed:( If in doubt don't bother - starting a new(ish) relationship from a position where you don't trust him is doomed to fail. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle-82 Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 My "Friends" reference clearly went unnoticed:( If in doubt don't bother - starting a new(ish) relationship from a position where you don't trust him is doomed to fail. I spotted it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinfoilhat Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 I spotted it Thank you Chelle, it's nice that my efforts are at the very least spotted! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gamston Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 I've been seeing a guy on and off for the last year, nothing serious at first, We stopped seeing eachother but kept in contact and then we'd meet up again and it would all start over again. After xmas we decided to give it a go properly but since then ive found out he's slept with other people between our on-off on-off relationship. i'm now struggleing to trust him as i dont know if he's telling the truth or not. Would you let go Would you see how things went Would you put it in the past and move forward any advice please You are not married or living with him, so If you have doubts about him for whatever reason, then move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stoned Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 Thank you Chelle, it's nice that my efforts are at the very least spotted! I spotted it too and was going to make some reference to this thread potentially ending up 14 Pages long. FRONT AND BACK!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle-82 Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 I spotted it too and was going to make some reference to this thread potentially ending up 14 Pages long. FRONT AND BACK!! It was actually 18 pages! but good effort old bean Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stoned Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 It was actually 18 pages! but good effort old bean Ha. So it was lol Thanks for the education Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyclone Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 I've been seeing a guy on and off for the last year, nothing serious at first, We stopped seeing eachother but kept in contact and then we'd meet up again and it would all start over again. After xmas we decided to give it a go properly but since then ive found out he's slept with other people between our on-off on-off relationship. i'm now struggleing to trust him as i dont know if he's telling the truth or not. What reason do you have to believe he's not telling the truth? I can't see any reason he shouldn't have slept with other people whilst you weren't in a relationship, but when you say "you've found out", do you mean that he tried to hide it, or did he tell you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
medusa Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 As far as I'm concerned, if you didn't actually say or write the words to each other that you were not going to see other people then whether you were on a break or not, it's just your assumption that you were both going to see each other exclusively. Ground rules are desperately important- you cannot simply assume that you're both approaching the relationship from the same standpoint. It takes 10 minutes to have a conversation about ground rules and they can save all sorts of worry. Ours went a little like: Me: OK, I need to explain a couple of rules that I have for my relationships. Please let me know how you feel about them. 1- I don't share and I don't have a relationship with anybody who does wish to share. 2- I don't expect my partner to pay for stuff/buy gifts all the time/whatever, but I do expect both of us to pay our way. Him: Both of those are cool. Done Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle-82 Posted March 22, 2016 Share Posted March 22, 2016 That's very civil medusa.. Mine went like this... Me: If you cheat on me I'll chop your **** off... Him: silence...... ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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