LDeville Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 An alternative way to see it is... If you split up with someone because they have an affair then you didn't really love them in the first place. If you really love someone then there is no obstacle that is insurmountable (except death). what is the deceiver does not want to return to their other half, or only return when they have been kicked out by the new lover - do you forgive?? I thought not!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bulgarian Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 what is the deceiver does not want to return to their other half Then it's not an affair is it, they've left you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frank Sidney Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 you can forgive but you'll never forget..its best to break up, unless there's kids involved then give it another crack... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronthenekred Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 An alternative way to see it is... If you split up with someone because they have an affair then you didn't really love them in the first place. If you really love someone then there is no obstacle that is insurmountable (except death). Only if you see love as an all encompassing control thing, leaving you little or no self respect. You can love and still hold something in higher regard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronthenekred Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Pipe down, my shoes cost more than your house. Nice shades. http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTCHAFZZLmfTdTu3UJkbKdKk-qHtMQtlHAUNFYar0kuHZQSXmqcOw Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MonkeyLover Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 An alternative way to see it is... If you split up with someone because they have an affair then you didn't really love them in the first place. If you really love someone then there is no obstacle that is insurmountable (except death). Poppycock! - I know because it happened to me. We tried to make a go of it (or rather, I did), but it didn't work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACEBOOK Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Nice shades. http://t3.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTCHAFZZLmfTdTu3UJkbKdKk-qHtMQtlHAUNFYar0kuHZQSXmqcOw That's a nice fish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bulgarian Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Only if you see love as an all encompassing control thing, leaving you little or no self respect. You can love and still hold something in higher regard. I don't see how the other person having an affair should effect your self respect, theirs perhaps but not yours, you've done nothing wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ronthenekred Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 An alternative way to see it is... If you split up with someone because they have an affair then you didn't really love them in the first place. If you really love someone then there is no obstacle that is insurmountable (except death). Why? I don't see how the other person having an affair should effect your self respect, theirs perhaps but not yours, you've done nothing wrong. You would certainly lose self respect if you held love in a higher regard than yourself, especially if it was to the detriment of yourself. Or do you see love as the ultimate sacrifice? Sentiment? Emotion? Do you think love rules over rationality? to be able to think.."I love this person but I don't like this person so therefore I'll make a conscious decision to let this person go". As for no obstacle insurmountable I would tend to agree, the other party would have to love you also in a reciprocal manner. That being so it seems highly unlikely the op's scenario in the first place would have arisen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quinnwok Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 If you knew your partner had cheated o nyuo would you forgive them or would you walk away? No and id kick them out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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