Help find someone who was adopted

[Chazndave]

"PLEASE SHARE FAR AND WIDE. I'm trying to find my sister who was adopted unfortunately without choice, back in 1966 in Rotherham. Her date of birth is 22nd January 1966, she is 50. My mum named her Michelle Barstow, but this could have been changed during adoption. For 10 days my mum loved her unconditionally until someone came to take Michelle away. My mum was only 15. This left my mum heartbroken. She was born and registered in Sheffield I believe. We have tried so many times before to find her but this is a last plea attempt. Thanks"

[Granma]

Hope this helps.

From Free Births Marriages Deaths.

http://www.freebmd.org.uk/

 

Births Registered in the first quarter, Jan.-Mar. 1966

 

Surname First name(s) Mother District Volume Page

BARSTOW MICHELLE BARSTOW SHEFFIELD 2D 326

 

Granma.

[harvey19]

"PLEASE SHARE FAR AND WIDE. I'm trying to find my sister who was adopted unfortunately without choice, back in 1966 in Rotherham. Her date of birth is 22nd January 1966, she is 50. My mum named her Michelle Barstow, but this could have been changed during adoption. For 10 days my mum loved her unconditionally until someone came to take Michelle away. My mum was only 15. This left my mum heartbroken. She was born and registered in Sheffield I believe. We have tried so many times before to find her but this is a last plea attempt. Thanks"

 

I would try posting this on the Sheffield Indexers or Sheffield Records on Line sites.

You may get help on lines to follow regarding adoptions.

[Granma]

http://www.salvationarmy.org.uk/reuniting-families

 

Granma.

[Jeddo]

Dear Chazndave

 

If she was legally adopted, and her name was changed, then you need to focus on facts that don't change ....her birth date. She will by now probably know she was adopted, but more importantly she WILL know her birth date. That is the key to everything. So you can post that in lots of places and if she comes looking, it will match.

 

One port of call is sites like Ancestry.co.uk, and their family trees - which is where a lot of adoptees look for their birth families, trouble is that living people do not come up on their searches for privacy reasons. Forget the TV adverts, they are just not true.

 

She may also know her birth city, even if adoptive parents don't know birth parents' names in order to inform her, they usually know where she was born (city) or where she was adopted from (home for unmarried mothers, hospital etc). Not that this applies (probably, in this case) but Rotherham/Sheffield unmarried mothers sometimes went to a Leeds unmarried mothers' home to have their illegitimate babies, especially if they wanted to keep the birth a secret. The babies were often adopted away there. I'm sure it worked the other way round too, with Leeds mothers coming to Sheffield.

 

Was the mother a Rotherham/Sheffield native, or did she come to Rotherham/Sheffield from elsewhere to have the baby?

 

I've checked marriages, and I can't find a marriage for a plain Michelle Barstow in Yorkshire. Any name variations, like having a middle initial that I did find, I checked out their births and found them in the cities they married in (not in Rotherham/Sheffield) and had different birth years too ( not 1966) so not your Michelle.

 

It looks like she changed her name or remained unmarried if not.

 

One of the other family tree sites used to list living people on their trees a few years ago, which is where I found a relation of mine who had been adopted away, who was looking for us. I'll check my files to remind myself which site it was, and see what I can do. I don't have a subscription for that Website but someone else will have, and we can try and have a search on there.

 

Give me a while. I'll come back to you.

 

---------- Post added 30-12-2016 at 10:14 ----------

 

Hi

 

Checked the Website it was Genes Reunited. I did a trees search and came up with about 6 Michelle Barstows, birth years starting 1970 upwards, no 1966 birth years came up.

 

Are you sure of the birth year of 1966?

Edited December 30, 2016 by Jeddo

[harvey19]

The General Register Office may be able to help.

[jimmyt101]

Its worth checking with an organization called After Adoption Yorkshire, they helped my birth mother track me down and also act as mediators.

[1066]

There are specialised social workers who have authority to search adoption records and, with permission from the adopted person, can arrange contact with their birth family. There may be aa fee. My granddaughter found her half-sister after 25 years of searching, in a few weeks.