jane91 Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 My boyfriend has asked me to marry him, he's a great man but he wants to get married this year but I'm not ready Help what do I do? He has said pick a date or we're done Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davyboy Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 Don't give in to this blackmailer. Your life won't be your own. Dump him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melthebell Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 He has said pick a date or we're done tells you everything you need to know tbh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinfoilhat Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 My boyfriend has asked me to marry him, he's a great man but he wants to get married this year but I'm not ready Help what do I do? He has said pick a date or we're done Doesn't sound like a great man, sounds like an arsehole. Call his bluff or say you need time to sort out your watertight pre-nup. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jane91 Posted March 29, 2017 Author Share Posted March 29, 2017 We got engaged last July and we've been together for a year, I really love this man but I do feel pushed but I know I'm going to miss him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GRAHAM F Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 If he wants to marry you so much and for all the right reasons and if ( as you say ) he is such a great man then he will wait till YOU are ready, if hes not prepared to do that then there is only one answer, and thats bye bye pal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mister M Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 If he loved you as much as you love him, he wouldn't blackmail you. Which is what he is doing: do what I want or else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El Cid Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 We got engaged last July and we've been together for a year, I really love this man but I do feel pushed but I know I'm going to miss him "pick a date or we're done" does not sound good. Maybe he has a reason for saying that? I have been on my own for a long time, it could be that you will find another easily, or maybe not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim Hardie Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 I was going to say an online forum is not the best place to ask for advice but reading the posts, I think you've had some very good advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
medusa Posted March 29, 2017 Share Posted March 29, 2017 I'm afraid I would never marry someone who made it an ultimatum. I've got an ethos in life, which is that I should choose the alternatives which are the 'run towards' choices, not the 'running away from' choices. If something is right then you should be quite happy for your life to move towards something, accepting it in its entirety. If there is something holding you back from that sort of acceptance then there's no way that you should allow anybody to push you into it. If he does love you in the sort of way that he will need to love you to make a marriage work then he wouldn't be making ultimatums like he is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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