RiffRaff Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 (edited) We'll be visiting my mother-in-law this Sunday. We'll drop what few groceries she requested - and that we could get - and other nonsenses into her kitchen, and then stand outside talking to her through the french window. She's 93 (or 94 - not too sure), can't walk, has no strength, and in constant pain. She wants to die. She prays for it all day, every day. She's too old, worn out. She's had enough. We'll have to stand away from her for fear of spreading this damn virus. How ironic. Edited March 18, 2020 by RiffRaff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DavidFrance Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 I like to think you will reassure her, tell her how proud you are of her, and grateful for all the sacrifices she made for you, stay as long as feasibly possible and ensure that her near neighbours don't forget her. The Sheffield people who are now in their nineties went through enough suffering in 1939-45 and the deprivations that followed without this catastrophic freak of nature. Our thoughts should be with them all and I hope many more will do as you are doing. Good health and stay safe! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daven Posted March 18, 2020 Share Posted March 18, 2020 5 hours ago, DavidFrance said: I like to think you will reassure her, tell her how proud you are of her, and grateful for all the sacrifices she made for you, stay as long as feasibly possible and ensure that her near neighbours don't forget her. The Sheffield people who are now in their nineties went through enough suffering in 1939-45 and the deprivations that followed without this catastrophic freak of nature. Our thoughts should be with them all and I hope many more will do as you are doing. Good health and stay safe! Lovely post. I so wish my lovely Mum was still with us - cherish her and tell her how much you love her. That is the best gift you can give her. Best wishes to you all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catmiss Posted March 19, 2020 Share Posted March 19, 2020 I can only agree with the above. A 90+ neighbour has been housebound for years and says she has had enough. Her 70+ son and daughter in law are her sole carers and visit several times a week and are continuing to do so despite being in the group advised to self isolate as they feel they have no choice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bassett one Posted March 19, 2020 Share Posted March 19, 2020 how about a happy mothers day column for those unable to visit and say hello in person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gran54 Posted March 22, 2020 Share Posted March 22, 2020 Happy Mothers day to all mums. Today I normally go out to the cinema and then for a nice meal with both my daughters and my grandaughters. Today thats impossible I know they have something planned but what I dont know its so sad though that we cant spend the full day together as normal. Im lucky i see my daughters through the week obviously not both at the same time but Mothers day has always been special us 3 mums spending it together with grandaughters.I hope other mums still get to see their family today Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiffRaff Posted March 22, 2020 Author Share Posted March 22, 2020 Being the original poster, I have to admit that I've changed my mind in the last few days - I would rather not go and visit my mother-in-law today. Matters have worsened since Wednesday, and we're forced to do a bit more shopping before visiting later, as a good 50% of items on our Sainsburys order was missing. (You've run out of baked beans? You've no tomato soup? No substitute brands? Really?!) My wife will still visit. She doesn't drive, which means I'll be the taxi. Why? Because the old dear is housebound, out of food, out of milk - she'll be out of everything. The real reason, of course, is that this will be, in all likelyhood, her last mothering Sunday. It's caused rows in our house - I think it's stupid, but then it's not my mum... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna B Posted March 22, 2020 Share Posted March 22, 2020 I think there are quite a few people in this position, people in their 90's relying on people in their 70's, and many in the 70's group with health problems of their own. I don't know what the answer is, just that we all need to know that we are loved, now more than ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RiffRaff Posted March 22, 2020 Author Share Posted March 22, 2020 1 hour ago, Anna B said: I think there are quite a few people in this position, people in their 90's relying on people in their 70's, and many in the 70's group with health problems of their own. I don't know what the answer is, just that we all need to know that we are loved, now more than ever. Well, I dropped my better half off at her mother's this afternoon. We had a considerable row about her going beforehand, but came to the agreement that I would help her in with the groceries, but then go and wait in the car. Faced with being imprisoned for the next few days/weeks, I thought of a few jobs that I could do at home, so nipped to B&Q - prior to DIY places being shut down? - to pick up one or two bits. It was packed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daven Posted March 22, 2020 Share Posted March 22, 2020 (edited) Just goes to show that some people are incredibly stupid. It will be closed soon but too late for many. Edited March 22, 2020 by Daven Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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