Gratitude To Parents?

[El Cid]

Do uou feel gratefull to your parents, for bringing you up?

A Son and Daughter that I know do not, yet they are happy to recieve £100,000 inheritance!

Surely they should denounce their inheritance, if they are not prepared to help their parents in later life. Of course if there is no inheritance, that is a different matter.

Just a discussion, to take your mind off Rwanda and the boat people, these asylum seekers seem to affect many peoples lives.

 

[cressida]

I brought up two children mainly on my own,  I wouldn't pat myself on the back though.

[The_DADDY]

I'm grateful to my parents for bringing me into this world.

Having said that my biological dad has never been in my life and I rarely speak to my mum but I'm still grateful to them. 

[cuttsie]

I had the finest mother and father that ever walked this  Earth , They did not conceive me . My biological parents fostered me out to the Cuttsie's .

 

My biologicals where well  off ,, business people, '

 

The Cuttsie's had now't , Jim was a miner , disabled by the coal dust on his lungs , He was a first World war veteran who went to battle on horse back .

 

Mabel and Jim had four kids who became my much older brothers and sisters , treated me as one of them .

 In 1953 My real father George Sherwood died , I have been told that he wanted to take me back into his life but have no prove of that ,  He ran a large Haulage company on Richmond Road Sheffield .

 

Any way he died and thats when I was adopted legally by the Cuttsie's .

 

The judge at the adoption Court asked me who I wanted to live with (no idea why ) I blurted out that I wan't my Mam .

"Who is your mam " He asked and I pointed at Mabel , The woman who took me in at six weeks old and had fed and looked after me ever since , As stated before she and Jim never had a penny to spare so to me they were are the best Parents who ever lived , 

Gratitude , Well if I could tell you how I feel about those two old timers who loved me as their own I would need a  thousand words .

Jim died around 1967 , Mabel 10 years later , I hope I was a good son to them ,I tried my best to make their old age better as I was working and doing Ok at that time , 

Thanks Jim , Thanks Mabel , Thank you the Cuttsie's 

[Palomar]

I’ve seen many peoples’ lives destroyed by demanding, selfish aged-parents, often of course dementia and disability is a big factor in the selfishness. I wouldn’t call my mother selfish, but she doesn’t really understand how much it takes out of me, and probably can’t remember that I’ve been round to see her 4 days out of the last 6, twice in a taxi in the middle of the night. My partner says ‘I can tell when you’ve been to your mothers’ as I’m falling asleep by 8pm. Yesterday after seeing her I went to bed at 5pm and had to be shaken awake at 7.15.

 

Just ten minutes ago there was a classic: I rang her as I have for the last 2000 nights straight, we chat for 20mins, often it’s quite fun, I told her I’d been to bed when I got home yesterday, and she said quite chidingly ‘well where had you been, what had you been doing?’, ‘I was at yours’, I said, ‘Oooh’ she said after a pause.

[cressida]

6 minutes ago, Palomar said:

I’ve seen many peoples’ lives destroyed by demanding, selfish aged-parents, often of course dementia and disability is a big factor in the selfishness. I wouldn’t call my mother selfish, but she doesn’t really understand how much it takes out of me, and probably can’t remember that I’ve been round to see her 4 days out of the last 6, twice in a taxi in the middle of the night. My partner says ‘I can tell when you’ve been to your mothers’ as I’m falling asleep by 8pm. Yesterday after seeing her I went to bed at 5pm and had to be shaken awake at 7.15.

 

Just ten minutes ago there was a classic: I rang her as I have for the last 2000 nights straight, we chat for 20mins, often it’s quite fun, I told her I’d been to bed when I got home yesterday, and she said quite chidingly ‘well where had you been, what had you been doing?’, ‘I was at yours’, I said, ‘Oooh’ she said after a pause.

Before I read your last sentence,  I was thinking you should have let her know how you felt,  truly,  some people who are dependent are so concerned with their own health problems they don't see that it can be a problem for anyone else,  because you're younger they think you're as you were when you left home.  

[cuttsie]

3 minutes ago, Palomar said:

I’ve seen many peoples’ lives destroyed by demanding, selfish aged-parents, often of course dementia and disability is a big factor in the selfishness. I wouldn’t call my mother selfish, but she doesn’t really understand how much it takes out of me, and probably can’t remember that I’ve been round to see her 4 days out of the last 6, twice in a taxi in the middle of the night. My partner says ‘I can tell when you’ve been to your mothers’ as I’m falling asleep by 8pm. Yesterday after seeing her I went to bed at 5pm and had to be shaken awake at 7.15.

 

Just ten minutes ago there was a classic: I rang her as I have for the last 2000 nights straight, we chat for 20mins, often it’s quite fun, I told her I’d been to bed when I got home yesterday, and she said quite chidingly ‘well where had you been, what had you been doing?’, ‘I was at yours’, I said, ‘Oooh’ she said after a pause.

I'm getting on a bit now Pal , Never ask the kids for ow't . 

But I know if we need it we just have to ask .

You sound a bit like I was when my adopted parents got older , No phone at their house then so it was two bus rides from  North Sheffield to the South of the City , Then two back home ,

Just to say hello most of the time , 

Never regretted it though , You reap what you sow .  Your memories will be there when she has gone and you will sleep at night knowing you did the right and proper things /

[El Cid]

1 hour ago, cressida said:

I brought up two children mainly on my own,  I wouldn't pat myself on the back though.

Some parents give over the responibility to grandparents.

[The_DADDY]

Just now, El Cid said:

Some parents give over the responibility to grandparents.

And some mums give over the responsibility to Dads 👍

[hackey lad]

24 minutes ago, cuttsie said:

I'm getting on a bit now Pal , Never ask the kids for ow't . 

But I know if we need it we just have to ask .

You sound a bit like I was when my adopted parents got older , No phone at their house then so it was two bus rides from  North Sheffield to the South of the City , Then two back home ,

Just to say hello most of the time , 

Never regretted it though , You reap what you sow .  Your memories will be there when she has gone and you will sleep at night knowing you did the right and proper things /