cressida Posted April 11, 2007 Author Share Posted April 11, 2007 Not true. If you are attractive (to him) then he'll find it h - difficult. What is it with this female obession with "testing" men like this? If there is nothing sexual in it then why would none of the women I know be happy for their bloke to sleep with a female "buddy"? The whole idea is to find a buddy who doesn't see me as sexually attractive or it won't work Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corr_Blimey Posted April 11, 2007 Share Posted April 11, 2007 I had a female friend sleep in my bed the other night, the temptation is just too great, I can't seem keep my hands to myself and she didn't seem to mind. Happy days! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
torin8 Posted April 11, 2007 Share Posted April 11, 2007 Ok - thread has been pruned a little to keep it on topic and a couple of offensive posts removed. Can we keep it on topic and if any of you want to 'chat' please take it either to the chat room or to PM please. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lindos Posted April 11, 2007 Share Posted April 11, 2007 perhaps you can be scary? Ah, we're back on air! Why would you think that.....and why would they be my friends if they thought I was scarey? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bjshooter Posted April 11, 2007 Share Posted April 11, 2007 I don't have this problem, I am part of the great unwanted Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cressida Posted April 11, 2007 Author Share Posted April 11, 2007 Ah, we're back on air! Why would you think that.....and why would they be my friends if they thought I was scarey? just a guess that perhaps the mixed messages you have gotten in the past, may be due to the fact that you may be sending mixed messages yourself, don't ask me why perhaps intuition, but you strike me as a very experienced and persuasive man, and that could be scary to some women, enlighten me:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KJ_VENOM Posted April 11, 2007 Share Posted April 11, 2007 definition of platonic relationship Woman's definition - A friend of the opposite sex you are not having sex with Man's definition - A friend of the opposite sex you are not having sex with .... yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cressida Posted April 11, 2007 Author Share Posted April 11, 2007 definition of platonic relationship Woman's definition - A friend of the opposite sex you are not having sex with Man's definition - A friend of the opposite sex you are not having sex with .... yet. so are you saying that the only safe men that women can, say, cuddle up to are gay men? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StarSparkle Posted April 11, 2007 Share Posted April 11, 2007 This is before any idea of attraction has been noted, you start off getting on well, and say to him do you think we could become buddies (he must know what that means) if he says no you're a very attractive woman (which has been said to me) then it's off It sounds like you want absolute guarantees on where a relationship is going before it really starts, Cressida. I can understand why you might want this - but I don't think it's a realistic expectation. Relationships don't seem to work like that. Neither party can know in advance where exactly a relationship is going, or what feelings each will develop for the other. A relationship - whether a love relationship or a friendship - is a dynamic thing that neither person can fully control. If it concerns you that a male friend might find it hard to respect the boundaries that are obviously very important to you in a friendship, perhaps it might work out better for you if you restricted your male friends to gay males, so there is no room for confusion? StarSparkle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cressida Posted April 11, 2007 Author Share Posted April 11, 2007 It sounds like you want absolute guarantees on where a relationship is going before it really starts, Cressida. I can understand why you might want this - but I don't think it's a realistic expectation. Relationships don't seem to work like that. Neither party can know in advance where exactly a relationship is going, or what feelings each will develop for the other. A relationship - whether a love relationship or a friendship - is a dynamic thing that neither person can fully control. If it concerns you that a male friend might find it hard to respect the boundaries that are obviously very important to you in a friendship, perhaps it might work out better for you if you restricted your male friends to gay males, so there is no room for confusion? StarSparkle I'ts not that deep, just curious Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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